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Abuse Help For Youth Ages 12+

Posted by Sandra On July - 27 - 2015 ADD COMMENTS

What Is Child Abuse?

childhelp-call-smallChild abuse is when an adult—usually a parent, family member, caretaker, or someone else close to the family—hurts a child or teen, makes that youth feel worthless, has sexual contact with him or her, or does not provide adequate food, care, or shelter. Child abuse can happen to all types of kids and in all types of families. And it isn’t something that only happens to little kids: 32 percent of 14- to 17-year-olds in the United States have been abused or neglected in their lifetimes, and 28 percent have been sexually victimized.

From time to time, all parents and children have problems, but most parents and adults do not abuse children. There is no single reason why people abuse others. Some adults abuse children because they themselves were abused when they were children. Others just can’t handle their feelings in a healthy way; they might be worried about something, like a problem at work or not having enough money to pay their bills, and take it out on their kids. Drinking alcohol or using drugs can also make it hard for some people to control their actions.

No matter what the reason is for the adult’s behavior, it’s important to know that child abuse is never the child’s fault. READ MORE HERE

Bystander, Good Samaritan Laws

Posted by Sandra On June - 14 - 2015 Comments Off on Bystander, Good Samaritan Laws

imagesWe’d all like to think that when we see something bad happening that we’d step forward to render aid. But in reality most of us don’t. And although some people won’t take the initiative to help, they will take the time to photograph or videotape the event and post it on the internet. Why?

The Bystander Effect – The bystander effect occurs when the presence of others discourages an individual from intervening in an emergency situation. Social psychologists Bibb Latané and John Darley popularized the concept following the infamous 1964 Kitty Genovese murder in Kew Gardens, New York. Genovese was stabbed to death outside her apartment while bystanders who observed the crime did not step in to assist or call the police. Latané and Darley attributed the bystander effect to the perceived diffusion of responsibility (onlookers are more likely to intervene if there are few or no other witnesses) and social influence (individuals in a group monitor the behavior of those around them to determine how to act). In Genovese’s case, each onlooker concluded from their neighbors’ inaction that their own personal help was not needed.

Good Samaritan Law – offer legal protection to people who give reasonable assistance to those who are injured, ill, in peril, or otherwise incapacitated. The protection is intended to reduce bystanders’ hesitation to assist, for fear of being sued or prosecuted for unintentional injury or wrongful death. An example of such a law in common-law areas of Canada: a good Samaritan doctrine is a legal principle that prevents a rescuer who has voluntarily helped a victim in distress from being successfully sued for wrongdoing. Its purpose is to keep people from being reluctant to help a stranger in need for fear of legal repercussions should they make some mistake in treatment. By contrast, a duty to rescue law requires people to offer assistance, and holds those who fail to do so liable. Good Samaritan laws vary from jurisdiction to jurisdiction, as do their interactions with various other legal principles, such as consent, parental rights and the right to refuse treatment. Most such laws do not apply to medical professionals’ or career emergency responders’ on-the-job conduct, but some extend protection to professional rescuers when they are acting in a volunteer capacity.

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The Mind of the Bystander

10 Things You Can Do as a Bystander

What Would You Do if You Were Witness to Child Abuse?

Reporting Crimes: Witnessing, Ignoring, Falsely Reporting, and Lying

June: PTSD Awareness Month

Posted by Sandra On June - 5 - 2015 Comments Off on June: PTSD Awareness Month

About PTSD Awareness

post_traumatic_stress_disorder_ptsd_with_childrenThe National Center for PTSD promotes awareness of PTSD and effective treatments throughout the year. Starting in 2010, Congress named June 27th PTSD Awareness Day (S. Res. 455). For the second consecutive year in 2014, the Senate designated the full month of June for National PTSD Awareness (S. Res. 481).

Following trauma, most people experience stress reactions but many do not develop PTSD. Mental health experts are not sure why some people develop PTSD and others do not. However, if stress reactions do not improve over time and they disrupt everyday life, seeking help to determine if PTSD is a factor is important. The purpose of PTSD Awareness Month is to encourage everyone to raise public awareness of PTSD and its effective treatments. We can all help those affected by PTSD.

Definition By Mayo Clinic Staff

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a mental health condition that’s triggered by a terrifying event — either experiencing it or witnessing it. Symptoms may include flashbacks, nightmares and severe anxiety, as well as uncontrollable thoughts about the event. Many people who go through traumatic events have difficulty adjusting and coping for a while, but they don’t have PTSD — with time and good self-care, they usually get better. But if the symptoms get worse or last for months or even years and interfere with your functioning, you may have PTSD. Getting effective treatment after PTSD symptoms develop can be critical to reduce symptoms and improve function. READ MORE HERE
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U.S. Youngest Sex Offenders

Posted by Sandra On June - 3 - 2015 Comments Off on U.S. Youngest Sex Offenders

DOCUMENTARY – Kid Criminals: America’s Youngest Sex Offenders

downloadIn America at any one time there are over 70,000 children behind bars. Kid Criminals meets children in high-security juvenile prisons who have committed shocking crimes. In Kid Criminals, an extraordinary two-part documentary from an award-winning production team, Channel 4 will explore some of the toughest juvenile prisons in the US and meet the child inmates, some of whom have committed the most shocking crimes imaginable.

In the US state of Indiana, children as young as 10 can be tried within the adult criminal justice system if the crimes are deemed serious enough or if they are repeated offenders. Most juveniles will have indeterminate sentences. Produced by Plum Pictures and with unprecedented access, this two-part documentary will deal with the different aspects of these juvenile prisons, following them from the intake unit at Logansport Correctional Facility where all juveniles in the state are processed to the male inmates at maximum security Pendleton Juvenile Correctional Facility and the female juveniles at Madison Juvenile Correctional Facility. There are currently 233 juveniles serving sentences for crimes which include battery, armed robbery, arson and murder. READ MORE HERE – Watch Documentary Below…

EPISODE 1

EPISODE 2

Steps To Take If CPS Won’t Help An Abused Child

Posted by Sandra On June - 1 - 2015 Comments Off on Steps To Take If CPS Won’t Help An Abused Child

What to do if CPS or DHS won’t help an abused child you’ve reported?

imagesSo, you’ve reported an abused child to CPS/DHS and nothing came of it? We hear these stories often and we have some suggestions for you: First and foremost, take photos and/or video of the abuse you have witnessed or seen. This will be valuable evidence to substantiate the abuse you are reporting. Also, the more reports that are submitted about the same abused child, the more chances something will be done quicker. Have the child’s teacher, neighbors, friends, church folks or whoever has any contact with the child, start complaining LOUDLY and OFTEN.

 

STEPS YOU CAN TAKE NEXT:

What to do if CPS won’t help an abused child you’ve reported?

First and foremost, take photos and/or video of the abuse you have witnessed or seen. This will be valuable evidence to substantiate the abuse you are reporting. Also, the more reports that are submitted about the same abused child, the more chances something will be done quicker. Have the child’s teacher, neighbors, friends, church folks or whoever has any contact with the child, start complaining LOUDLY and OFTEN.

1) Contact LEGAL AIDE and find legal representation — your case should be tried in a court of law to petition the court for an abuse or neglect investigation, temporary guardianship, and/or full custody.

2) Call a Child Abuse Hotline and make a formal report. This may also help to escalate an investigation. These hotlines are staffed 24-hours a day. When you call, a Child Protective Services intake specialist will ask you for information about the child’s family and about how and why you think the child is being mistreated.

Child Abuse Hotlines:

3) Call the police or dial 911 directly – especially if the child is in immediate danger!  If the child has current immediate/obvious bruising, abuse, neglect or any signs that the police or EMS workers can visibly see, I guarantee CPS will be forced to step in after they contact them. (Having police reports to coincide with CPS reports helps to bring the case immediate attention!!)

4) Contact the CPS office and ask to speak the the SUPERVISOR—report the worker behind the recommendation. You probably initially spoke to an intake worker. Next time ask to speak to the Intake Worker’s supervisor (they are who decides whether a case is accepted or not). There are two types of investigations: a GPS case/investigation- General Protection Services (and) a CPS case/investigation – Child Protection Services.

5) Contact the child’s school and speak directly to his teacher, principal, coach or school counselor. They are mandated reporters and can help to bring attention to the child’s abuse. When a mandated reporter makes a child abuse report, it will substantiate any other reports already received on said child and will escalate the case to higher priority. Stay in close touch with the school counselor and make sure the children know that the counselor is someone to be trusted and they will NEVER be in trouble for telling the counselor the truth.

6) Document, document, document. Take pictures. Tell the child that if they are hit they are to call the police IMMEDIATELY and reassure them that you will never get angry at them for calling the police. Tell them that if they become that afraid, they are to run to a neighbor’s house and call the police. Police take that kind of stuff very seriously BECAUSE of the number of children who have been seriously injured or worse because of neglect and abuse that went unpunished. Record and document everything—-keep a journal with dates, times, notes. Write down in detail what the child did to be “punished” for, when and where thy were hit and with what object, etc… Remember to take pictures and/or video of any/all abuse. This is crucial!! If possible, install a “nanny or spy cam” to catch the abuse on tape.

7) Take the child to a physician’s office or hospital for evaluation. Ask for a copy of the medical examination report with the doctor’s findings. These reports are also crucial for any investigation.

8) If all else fails, please contact your state governor’s office and speak to thecommission’s office!!! They will record an “in-take” report and investigate. Contact your state legislature/governor’s office/District Attorney and ask for assistance. Report the CPS office that is behind this unacceptable recommendation. Do not take no for an answer…be persistent. Call them, write them, go in person to their offices and tell them you need help.

NOTE: The laws state that parents are allowed to parent as they see fit provided the child isn’t being physically/emotionally/mentally abused nor neglected to the point that it puts the child’s life in danger. Physical abuse is the easiest to prove in a court of law. Emotional/Mental Abuse is about impossible to prove with a younger child, especially if there aren’t other kids in the home displaying the same behaviors and if the behaviors aren’t extreme. Spanking isn’t illegal, spanking with an implement is highly frowned upon, but if it isn’t causing severe pain, bruising or impairment, it’s not (technically) illegal….Just morally and ethically wrong.

Please note that CPS should only be utilized to protect children in danger through child abuse, sexual abuse, maltreatment, or neglect. It should never be used to report individuals who do not agree with the way a family or other parent is raising the child. DHS is always going to try to rehabilitate the parent. Jurisdictions vary, but you need to keep reporting to CPS EVERY TIME an incident occurs. They have to come out and investigate each report by law.

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How the POLICE investigate child abuse allegations

If concerns about child abuse are reported to the police, they have a duty to investigate. This page tells you more about these investigations and how the decision to prosecute is taken.

How the police investigate allegations of child abuse

If someone reports concerns about child abuse to the police, the case will be dealt with by a specialist child abuse investigation team.The team may do one or more of the following things to investigate the allegations:

  • share information with the local authority, schools, and health services to establish what is already known
  • visit and speak to the child, either with or without parental permission
  • visit the home where the child lives or where the offence took place
  • search for and seize evidence of the offence
  • arrange a medical examination of a child (see below)
  • place a child into police protection for up to 72 hours if they believe the child is at risk of immediate significant harm
  • gather statements from potential witnesses (see below).

Medical examinations

The police may want the child who has been abused to be medically examined. The first priority in a medical examination is the safety and welfare of a child.  If a child needs immediate medical treatment, this will always come before any other consideration. Where the child is very young, the parents have to give permission for a medical examination. On rare occasions, a social worker may seek a court order for a medical examination to take place if a parent won’t allow it. If the child is older, the doctor will have to be satisfied that the child is clearly able to give their consent to be medically examined. Police and social workers may attend the medical examination along with the child’s parents and it will be carried out by a specialist pediatrician who will make a record of any injuries and arrange photographs if necessary. If you visit a GP with concerns about child abuse, a further specialist medical examination may need to take place.

Statements

The police may ask anyone who could be a witness to the abuse to provide a statement. This may be written or, particularly with children, by interviewing in a special room with video or DVD recording equipment. When a child is interviewed, a social worker will often be present or may even conduct the interview if they have specialist training. If you are suspected of child abuse, the police must either arrest you or invite you to speak to them at a police station. They must advise you of your legal rights and offer you the opportunity of seeking advice from a solicitor.

Police complaints

If you’re unhappy about the way the police investigate allegations, you may be able to make a complaint.

The decision whether or not to prosecute

Once the police have conducted their investigation and gathered all relevant information, they have to decide if there is enough evidence to consider a prosecution. If there is enough evidence, the police papers are passed to the Child Protective Service (CPS) who make the decision whether a suspect should be charged with an offence or not. CPS may ask the police to make further enquiries or obtain additional evidence. There are guidelines in place which CPS must follow when dealing with a child abuse case. When they make the decision about whether to prosecute someone, specialist prosecutors in CPS must look at all the relevant evidence and decide:

  • if there’s a realistic prospect of conviction, and
  • if a prosecution is in the public interest.

The guidelines say that victims and witnesses should be made aware from the start of the investigation exactly what is expected of them, particularly in terms of going to court and giving evidence, and they should be offered support to help them in this process.  When considering how believable a child or young person is, the police and CPS should focus on the allegation, rather than focusing just on any perceived weaknesses in the victim. In particular, police and prosecutors should avoid making assumptions about victims. A reluctance to cooperate with those in authority, failure to report allegations of abuse swiftly, and providing inconsistent accounts are not uncommon in victims of child sexual abuse, especially during initial interviews’.

The child or young person can be told that other people have made allegations about the suspect. But this should usually only be done after they have given their own account and the details of other allegations shouldn’t be shared.

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The following information is from www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/child-abuse-and-neglect.htm

Reporting child abuse—anonymously

If you suspect a child is being abused, it’s critical to get them the help he or she needs. Reporting child abuse seems so official. Many people are reluctant to get involved in other families’ lives.

Understanding some of the myths behind reporting may help put your mind at ease if you need to report child abuse.

  • I don’t want to interfere in someone else’s family. The effects of child abuse are lifelong, affecting future relationships, self-esteem, and sadly putting even more children at risk of abuse as the cycle continues. Help break the cycle of child abuse.
  • What if I break up someone’s home? The priority in child protective services is keeping children in the home. A child abuse report does not mean a child is automatically removed from the home—unless the child is clearly in danger. Support such as parenting classes, anger management or other resources may be offered first to parents if safe for the child.
  • They will know it was me who called. Reporting is anonymous. In most places, you do not have to give your name when you report child abuse. The child abuser cannot find out who made the report of child abuse.
  • It won’t make a difference what I have to say. If you have a gut feeling that something is wrong, it is better to be safe than sorry. Even if you don’t see the whole picture, others may have noticed as well, and a pattern can help identify child abuse that might have otherwise slipped through the cracks.

When reporting child abuse

Reporting child abuse can bring up a lot of difficult emotions and uncertainty. You may ask yourself if you’re doing the right thing, or question if your voice will even be heard. Here are some tips for communicating effectively in difficult situations:

  • Try to be as specific as you can. For example, instead of saying, “The parents are not dressing their children right,” say something like, “I saw the child running outside three times last week in subzero weather without a jacket or hat. I saw him shivering and uncomfortable. He seemed to want to come inside.” However, remember that it is not your job to “prove” abuse or neglect. If suspicions are all you have, you should report those as well.
  • Understand that you may not learn of the outcome. Due to confidentiality laws in the U.S., unless you are a mandated reporter in an official capacity, you probably won’t be updated by Child Protective Services (CPS) about the results of their investigation. The family may not broadcast that they have been mandated services, either—but that doesn’t mean they are not receiving them.
  • If you see future incidences, continue to call and report them. Each child abuse report is a snapshot of what is going on in the family. The more information that you can provide, the better the chance of getting the best care for the child.

Reporting abuse in your home or in child custody situations

Witnessing abuse in your own home or suspecting abuse in a custody situation brings its own set of challenges and concerns. You may be afraid of what your abuser will do to you and your children if you speak up. You may also be concerned that the abuser will be able to cover his or her tracks or even turn the abuse around onto you. Culturally, it may not be acceptable for you to separate, adding additional feelings of shame and isolation. You may also be afraid of having your children taken away from you.

Don’t go it alone

Domestic violence isn’t just about black eyes. Manipulation and emotional threats to you and your children are also a form of abuse, power, and control. Fear of losing custody of the children can be extremely stressful for both women and men in abusive relationships. Child abuse allegations in divorce or child custody issues are viewed very carefully to ensure they are not motivated by vindictiveness. However, if your abuser appears professional, well-groomed, and well-spoken to the outside world, you may feel like your concerns aren’t being taken seriously. Worse, if your allegations remain unproven, they may even result in the abuser being given custody.

Therefore, if you are planning to separate, or have already separated and are in a custody battle, it is essential to get support and legal advice. Domestic violence organizations can help you connect with legal resources in your community, and may be able to provide an advocate to assist your case and attend court hearings. Domestic violence organizations can help you work out a safety plan for both you and your children, and in the U.S. can also help you make calls to CPS if needed.

 

Tips on how to report child abuse in your home or in a custody situation

  1. Stay CALM. Do not let your emotions dictate your actions, and do not vent your emotions onto the people who are assigned to investigate your case (CPS, law enforcement officers, etc.).
  2. IF THIS IS AN EMERGENCY: Call 911 or your local police.
  3. DOCUMENT EVERYTHING from this point forward, including times, dates, and places. KEEP all documents from all professionals who have an opinion about the child abuse. This includes therapists, doctors, policemen, and teachers. If a professional informs you that they have an opinion or a suspicion of child abuse, have them document that suspicion, preferably in the form of an affidavit. Be sure to get a copy of any opinions from professionals regarding your child’s case.
  4. HAVE YOUR CHILD EVALUATED. Talk to medical and psychology professionals. If possible, have your child evaluated at a Child Assessment Center.
  5. BEGIN INVESTIGATION. Talk to law enforcement officers to initiate an investigation into the allegation of child abuse. Any reasonable belief of abuse or neglect should be reported to the police. If you have been too afraid to voice allegations in the past, let them know. If you have previously reported abuse, communicate the fact that you are trying to protect the child from further harm
  6. TALK TO CPS. If the abuse is not criminal, talk to CPS to initiate an investigation into the allegation of child abuse.
  7. GET AN ATTORNEY. Get an attorney and start proceedings to gain full custody of your child and terminate the abuser’s parental rights.
  8. CALL JUSTICE FOR CHILDREN. If you encounter a problem with completing steps 3-6, call JFC at 1-800-733-0059. Office hours are M-F 8-5 pm Central Standard Time.

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Ways to help the child

How to respond when a child discloses abuse

  • Remain calm. A child may retract information or stop talking if he/she senses a strong reaction.
  • Believe the child. Children rarely make up stories about abuse.
  • Listen without passing judgment. Most children know their abusers and often have confused feelings.

What to say to the child

  • I believe you.
  • I know it’s not your fault.
  • I’m glad I know about it.
  • I’m sorry this happened to you.
  • I will take care of you—you don’t need to take care of me.
  • I’m not sure what will happen next.
  • Nothing about you made this happen.
  • I am upset, but not with you.
  • I’m angry at the person who did this.
  • I’m sad. You may see me cry. That’s all right. I’m not mad at you.
  • I don’t know why he did it. He has a problem.
  • We need to get help, so this doesn’t happen again.
  • I know this isn’t easy for you to talk about, but there are some people who need to know what happened so they can help keep you and other children safe.

Support the child emotionally.

  • Never blame the child for what happened to him/her.
  • Remember to communicate support for the child for having told about the abuse. Use statements like, “You were very brave to tell about what happened. I’m proud of you.” Say it often.
  • Don’t communicate anger toward the child as you arrange for various appointments such as the interview, medical exam, and therapy sessions. Your child may believe you are “put out” with having to do this and may feel like a burden.
  • Discuss with your child and other professionals what to tell relatives, teachers or friends about the abuse. Every detail does not need to be shared.
  • Never use threats or intimidation to help make sure that the child is telling the truth.
  • Don’t pretend, in an effort to return your child to normal life, that nothing has happened to your child. This can communicate the wrong message

Keep the child safe—physically and emotionally.

  • Keep the child away from the person suspected of the abuse.
  • Ensure that the offender does not telephone the home where the child resides at any time when the child victim might answer the phone.
  • Keep all your conversations with the offender, if any occur, in a room with the door closed and always away from the child.
  • If you, as the protective parent, choose to meet with the offender, do so during school times or when the child is visiting a friend or relative. These meetings should be private and should not be discussed with the child. It is never okay for a parent or other relative to pass on messages from the offender to  the child.
  • Do not “ship off” the child to a relative so that you can see the offender in the house.
  • Do not leave your child with a relative or friend who either doesn’t know or doesn’t believe the report of abuse, especially in a place where the offender might stop by and visit or call.
  • If the offender breaks any supervision or protection rules, notify the investigating officer and caseworker as soon as possible. If you fail to do this, the court may see you as an unprotective parent, and you may run the risk of losing custody of your child. This is especially true if you allow contact between the offender and child.

Protect the investigation.

  • Be careful not to question the child about the abuse. Repeated questioning by untrained professionals will only serve to compromise the investigation. If  the child chooses to talk about what happened, listen supportively, but do not probe or ask any questions that may be considered leading or suggestive. This is very important.
  • If you are aware of any child pornography, of any sexual solicitation, or your child (who is under 18) receives any sexually explicit images, you should turn your computer off and leave it off to preserve any evidence for future law enforcement use.
  • Unless your law enforcement agency asks you to do so, DO NOT attempt to copy or print any of the images or text found on the computer.
  • Don’t discuss the case, the offender’s bond, or jail arrangement within hearing distance of the child.
  • Never coach or advise your child on how to act or what to say to the professionals on the investigation team. This may be seen as interfering in the case or not being cooperative with the system.

 

Film: A Place for Pedophiles

Posted by Sandra On May - 25 - 2015 Comments Off on Film: A Place for Pedophiles

download (2)British documentary film maker Louis Theroux has a unique style. Like no other he manages to strike the balance between getting involved with and close to his topics and making sure he keeps enough distance to guarantee his neutrality and independence. His open approach, integrity and diplomacy win people over, even those living in some of the world’s most closed communities. Theroux’s work method has resulted in quite a few memorable scenes and movies. In his own words and with the aid of video fragments he will shed a light on his style, technique and vision.

Louis has gained access to Coalinga Mental Hospital in California, which houses more than 500 of the most disturbed criminals in America, convicted pedophiles. Most have already served lengthy prison sentences, but have been deemed unsafe for release. Instead, they have been sent here for an indefinite time. Spending time with those undergoing treatment, Louis wrestles with whether he can ever allow himself to believe men whose whole history is defined by deception and deceit.

All right reserved to BBC. This is a non-profit contribution for education.

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Dreamcatchers DV Division

Posted by Sandra On May - 21 - 2015 Comments Off on Dreamcatchers DV Division

DREAMCATCHERS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE DIVISION

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Domestic Violence is any physical or psychological abuse directed at partners, siblings, children or elders. Violence in the home harms everyone in the family. Children are especially vulnerable – If there is violence in the home where children reside it is considered child abuse. When they witness violent behavior between family members, or when they’re being abused themselves, they may repeat the cycle of abuse as they grow older. As parents it is our sole duty and responsibility to prevent family violence and protect our children. If you are experiencing violence in your home, remember you are not alone. Abusive behavior affects every neighborhood, ethnic background and economic class…it does not discriminate. No family is immune, but no family should ever be a victim of abuse!

Our new DV program is directed by a DV survivor, Ann Livingston. She is working adamantly on educating the public on domestic violence, prevention, awareness and the steps to escape an abusive relationship.

For more info, visit us at:

Website:    http://dreamcatchersdvdivision.weebly.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Dreamcatchers-Domestic-Violence-Division/710795282346223?fref=ts

Twitter:     https://twitter.com/AnnMLivingston

Email:       [email protected]

Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline 24/7 for immediate help! 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

The Rape Survivor Child Custody Act

Posted by Sandra On May - 20 - 2015 Comments Off on The Rape Survivor Child Custody Act

Senate Votes to Stop Rapists From Getting Custody of Children Conceived Through Rape

_text_imageIt was a rare, unanimous, and bipartisan moment on the Senate floor Wednesday when lawmakers passed an amendment that motivates states to pass laws that give mothers—who conceived their children as a result of rape—the chance to take away the parental rights of their rapist. The Rape Survivor Child Custody Act passed as an amendment to the Senate’s human-trafficking bill, which passed later Wednesday after languishing in the Senate for more than a month over an abortion provision. The bipartisan Rape Survivor legislation passed after receiving little attention over the last several years since being introduced. READ MORE HERE

Rape Survivor Child Custody Act – GovTrack.us

H.R.2772 – 113th Congress (2013-2014): Rape Survivor Child Custody Act

 

81 Mental Health Resources When You Can’t Afford a Therapist

Posted by Sandra On April - 27 - 2015 Comments Off on 81 Mental Health Resources When You Can’t Afford a Therapist

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Mental Health Apps, Websites, Online Support, and Forums; 

Hotlines and Call Centers, Addiction & Other Support Groups

Sure, pretty much everyone could benefit from therapy. But not everyone can afford it. Thankfully, there’s a whole world of free or affordable mental health care out there designed to help you with just about every issue, whether that’s kicking an addiction, managing your emotions, finding a group of like-minded peers, or recovering from trauma. Even better? Some of these resources are available whenever you need them. (No need to schedule an appointment between the hours of 9 and 5.) Support groups, hotlines and call centers, websites and online forums, and even apps can be put into action when you have a crisis or just need extra support. But finding out which resources are best for you takes some legwork. We’ve rounded up 81 of the very best affordable (or free) mental health resources. Keep this list handy whenever you need some backup. READ MORE HERE

Note: Resources are listed alphabetically by type.

Female Teacher Sex Convictions Increasing At Shocking Rate

Posted by Sandra On April - 23 - 2015 Comments Off on Female Teacher Sex Convictions Increasing At Shocking Rate

Changing attitudes and more women cops are behind the soaring numbers of female teachers being prosecuted for sexual assault

27D0806400000578-3051283-image-m-50_1429738471928A Saturday Night Live skit about a male student having sex with his female high school teacher painted the relationship as every teen boy’s dream, but drew a firestorm of criticism on social media. The reaction to the comedy sketch reflected a growing view among law enforcement and victims’ advocacy groups that it is no laughing matter when a woman educator preys on her male students. In U.S. schools last year, almost 800 school employees were prosecuted for sexual assault, nearly a third of them women. READ MORE HERE

Women Arrested for Indecent Behavior With Kids – Crime

Female Teacher Sex Offenders -Sexual Predators- Registry

The big list: Female teachers with students

Female Sex Offenders

Female Offenders Driven by More Than Sex 

‘Sexpidemic': Female teachers preying on minors

Child Sex Exploitation Websites Have Increased 136%

Posted by Sandra On April - 14 - 2015 Comments Off on Child Sex Exploitation Websites Have Increased 136%

90% of images now show victims aged ten or less

downloadThe number of web pages containing child pornography has more than doubled over the past year. Researchers have also revealed the material features increasingly young children. Nine out of every ten images of child sexual abuse found online in 2014 showed children aged ten and under, according to the Internet Watch Foundation. That was a dramatic increase from the year before, when around two-thirds of the child porn it found featured children of such a young age. They were part of a worrying rise in the amount of child abuse the IWF discovered online. Overall, experts from the regulator removed more than 31,000 web pages featuring vile images of sexual abuse in 2014, soaring 136 per cent from around 13,000 the previous year. READ MORE HERE

Online child sex abuse images soar

How to Report Child Pornography – US Department of Justice

 

 

Warning Signs of Sex Abuse

Posted by Sandra On April - 9 - 2015 Comments Off on Warning Signs of Sex Abuse

Warning Signs in Children of Possible Sexual Abuse 

80472385-Sad-childStop It Now! has developed a warning signs tip sheet to help identify possible warning signs. Any one sign does not mean that a child was sexually abused, but the presence of several suggests that you begin asking questions and consider seeking help. Any one sign doesn’t mean that a child was sexually abused, but the presence of several suggests that you begin asking questions and consider seeking help. Young children often do not report sexual abuse to a parent because they are ashamed, feel loyal to the person who is abusing them, or have been threatened not to tell. You may notice some changes in your child, however as a parent it is imperative that you are aware of what signs to look for that may indicate child sexual abuse.

 

Behavior you may see in a child or adolescent:

    • Has nightmares or other sleep problems without an explanation
    • Seems distracted or distant at odd times
    • Has a sudden change in eating habits
    • Refuses to eat
    • Loses or drastically increases appetite
    • Has trouble swallowing
    • Sudden mood swings: rage, fear, insecurity, or withdrawal
    • Leaves “clues” that seem likely to provoke a discussion about sexual issues
    • Develops new or unusual fear of certain people or places
    • Refuses to talk about a secret shared with an adult or older child
    • Writes, draws, plays, or dreams of sexual or frightening images
    • Talks about a new older friend
    • Suddenly has money, toys, or other gifts without reason
    • Thinks of self or body as repulsive, dirty, or bad
    • Exhibits adult-like sexual behaviors, language, and knowledge

What to look for in adults and children

What is considered child sexual abuse?

Child sexual abuse includes touching and non-touching activity. Some examples of touching activity include:

  • touching a child’s genitals or private parts for sexual pleasure
  • making a child touch someone else’s genitals, play sexual games or have sex putting objects or body parts (like fingers, tongue or penis) inside the vagina, in the mouth or in the anus of a child for sexual pleasure

Some examples of non-touching activity include:

  • showing pornography to a child
  • deliberately exposing an adult’s genitals to a child
  • photographing a child in sexual poses
  • encouraging a child to watch or hear sexual acts
  • inappropriately watching a child undress or use the bathroom
As well as the activities described above, there is also the serious and growing problem of people making and downloading sexual images of children on the Internet. To view child abuse images is to participate in the abuse of a child. Those who do so may also be abusing children they know. People who look at this material need help to prevent their behaviour from becoming even more serious.

Warning signs in children and adolescents of possible child sexual abuse

Children often show us rather than tell us that something is upsetting them. There may be many reasons for changes in their behaviour, but if we notice a combination of worrying signs it may be time to call for help or advice.

What to watch out for in children:

  • Acting out in an inappropriate sexual way with toys or objects
  • Nightmares, sleeping problems
  • Becoming withdrawn or very clingy
  • Becoming unusually secretive
  • Sudden unexplained personality changes, mood swings and seeming insecure
  • Regressing to younger behaviors, e.g. bedwetting
  • Unaccountable fear of particular places or people
  • Outburst of anger
  • Changes in eating habits
  • New adult words for body parts and no obvious source
  • Talk of a new, older friend and unexplained money or gifts
  • Self-harm (cutting, burning or other harmful activities)
  • Physical signs, such as, unexplained soreness or bruises around genitals or mouth, sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancy
  • Running away
  • Not wanting to be alone with a particular child or young person

Any one sign doesn’t mean that a child was or is being sexually abused, but the presence of several suggests that you should begin to ask questions and consider seeking help. Keep in mind that some of these signs can emerge at other times of stress such as:

  • During a divorce
  • Death of a family member or pet
  • Problems at school or with friends
  • Other anxiety-inducing or traumatic events

Physical warning signs

Physical signs of sexual abuse are rare, however, if you see these signs, take your child to a doctor. Your doctor can help you understand what may be happening and test for sexually transmitted diseases.
  • Pain, discoloration, bleeding or discharges in genitals, anus or mouth
  • Persistent or recurring pain during urination and bowel movements
  • Wetting and soiling accidents unrelated to toilet training

Signs that an adult may be using their relationship with a child for sexual reasons

The signs that an adult is using their relationship with a child for sexual reasons may not be obvious. We may feel uncomfortable about the way they play with the child, or seem always to be favouring them and creating reasons for them to be alone. There may be cause for concern about the behaviour of an adult or young person if they:

  • Refuse to allow a child sufficient privacy or to make their own decisions on personal matters.
  • Insist on physical affection such as kissing, hugging or wrestling even when the child clearly does not want it.
  • Are overly interested in the sexual development of a child or teenager.
  • Insist on time alone with a child with no interruptions.
  • Spend most of their spare time with children and have little interest in spending time with people their own age.
  • Regularly offer to baby-sit children for free or take children on overnight outings alone.
  • Buy children expensive gifts or give them money for no apparent reason.
  • Frequently walk in on children/teenagers in the bathroom.
  • Treat a particular child as a favourite, making them feel ‘special’ compared with others in the family.
  • Pick on a particular child.

Child abuse among children and young people

Age appropriate sexual behavior

We all know that children pass through different stages of development as they grow, and that their awareness and curiosity about sexual matters change as they pass from infancy into childhood and then through puberty to adolescence. Each child is an individual and will develop in his or her own way. However, there is a generally accepted range of behaviors linked to a child’s age and developmental stage. Sometimes these will involve some exploration with other children of a similar age. It can be difficult to tell the difference between age appropriate sexual exploration and warning signs of harmful behavior. Occasionally we may need to explain to children why we would prefer them not to continue with a particular behavior.

This is a chance to talk with them about keeping themselves and others safe and to let them know that you are someone who will listen. Disabled children may develop at different rates, depending on the nature of their disability, and they can be more vulnerable to abuse. Children with learning disabilities, for example, may behave sexually in ways that are out of step with their age. Particular care may be needed in educating such children to understand their sexual development and to ensure that they can communicate effectively about any worries they have.

It is important to recognise that while people from different backgrounds have different expectations about what is acceptable behaviour in children, sexual abuse happens across all races and cultures. Remember that each child develops at his or her own pace and not every child will show the behaviours described below. If you have any worries or questions about a child you know, talk to someone about it.

Pre-school children (0-5) years commonly:

  • Use childish ‘sexual’ language to talk about body parts
  • Ask how babies are made and where they come from
  • Touch or rub their own genitals
  • Show and look at private parts

They rarely:

  • Discuss sexual acts or use sexually explicit language
  • Have physical sexual contact with other children
  • Show adult-like sexual behaviour or knowledge  

School-age children (6-12 years) commonly:

  • Ask questions about menstruation, pregnancy and other sexual behavior
  • Experiment with other children, often during games, kissing, touching, showing and role playing
  • Masturbate in private

They rarely:

  • Masturbate in public
  • Show adult like sexual behaviour or knowledge

Adolescents:

  • Ask questions about relationships and sexual behavior
  • Use sexual language and talk between themselves about sexual acts
  • Masturbate in private
  • Experiment sexually with adolescents of similar age

NB. About one-third of adolescents have sexual intercourse before the age of 16.

They rarely:

  • Masturbate in public
  • Have sexual contact with much younger children or adults 

Warning signs of sexually harmful behaviour

One of the hardest things for parents to discover is that their child may have sexually harmed or abused another child. In this situation, denial, shock and anger are normal reactions. If it is not responded to quickly and sensitively, the effect on the whole family can be devastating. For this reason it is vital to contact someone for advice about what to do as soon as you suspect that something is wrong. The positive message is that early help for the child or young person and their family can make a real difference. Evidence suggests that the earlier children can get help, the more chance there is of preventing them moving on to more serious behaviour. It is important to be alert to the early warning signs that something is going wrong. If you are in this situation, remember that you are not alone. Many other parents have been through similar experiences, and, as a result, the child and family found the help they needed are were able to rebuild their lives. The first step is to decide that it would be helpful to talk it over with someone else.

Do you know a child or adolescent who:

  • Seeks out the company of younger children and spends an unusual amount of time in their company?
  • Takes younger children to ‘secret’ places or hideaways or plays ‘special’ games with them (e.g. doctor and patient, removing clothing etc.) especially games unusual to their age?
  • Insists on hugging or kissing a child when the child does not want to?
  • Tells you they do not want to be alone with a child or becomes anxious when a particular child comes to visit?
  • Frequently uses aggressive or sexual language about adults or children?
  • Shows sexual material to younger children?
  • Makes sexually abusive telephone calls?
  • Shares alcohol or drugs with younger children or teens?
  • Views child pornography on the internet or elsewhere?
  • Exposes his or her genitals to younger children?
  • Forces sex on another adolescent or child?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you should talk to the child or young person and seek advice.

What you can do if you see warning signs

If you are concerned about the sexualized behaviors in a parent, cousin, sibling, friend, or neighbor, you should consider contacting the police or children’s services in your area, they can take action if appropriate. If you choose not to do that, care enough to talk to the person whose behavior is worrying you.

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What Is Child “Grooming?”

Posted by Sandra On March - 31 - 2015 Comments Off on What Is Child “Grooming?”

downloadPerpetrators of child sexual abuse (CSA) may gain the trust of potential child victims and their caregivers by methodically “grooming” them. This process begins with identifying potential victims, gaining their trust, and breaking down their defenses. These grooming tactics are often directed at potential youth victims as well as the adult caregivers—parents, other youth-serving professionals, and the community-at-large. After gaining access to children and youth by achieving this trust, the perpetrator initiates some kind of contact that s/he finds sexually gratifying. This sexual contact may range from voyeurism to rape and other forms of child sexual abuse. Grooming helps the offender gain access to the victim, and sets up a relationship grounded in secrecy so that the crime is less likely to be discovered. READ MORE HERE

 

Child Sexual Abuse – 6 Stages of Grooming – Oprah.com

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The Grooming Process | Department for Children and Families

Child Sexual Abuse & Grooming

Sexual Offender Tactics and Grooming

101 Ways to Move From Victim-Survivor-Thriver

Posted by Sandra On March - 30 - 2015 Comments Off on 101 Ways to Move From Victim-Survivor-Thriver

imagesThe cold hard fact is that far too many of us are going through pain. I know, I’ve spoken to enough of you about it. But if you know me, even after you’ve seen my documentary and read my book about it and heard me speak – you know that I am all about moving on. Yes, life is hard and the worst nightmare – child sexual abuse – is so prevalent it can make you ill. But I believe that the more survivors and loved ones of survivors heal and move forward, the more we will end the epidemic by not repeating it.

The majority of people who read my blog and know me from speaking gigs have told me that me speaking about moving on (and doing it with cursing and laughter) is way they love me. Ah, I love you too! Those who hate what I talk about will always be haters and should read this list too. A DM from a Twitter friend promoted this list by asking me, surprised, if I really had moved on from my story and how in the world I did it. Here you go! READ MORE HERE

 

10 Signs of Child Abuse

Posted by Sandra On March - 29 - 2015 Comments Off on 10 Signs of Child Abuse

download (1)Readers, the first step to curbing child abuse is recognizing it. If you see, or suspect, any form of child abuse PLEASE report it! Take action – it could save a child’s life. Report child abuse to your local or state child protective service agency, or to your neighborhood police precinct.You can become aware of child abuse by recognizing the signs. Here are 10 signs that can help:

1. Unexplained injuries: There may be unconvincing explanations for a child’s injuries.

2. Changes in behavior: Abused children often appear scared, anxious, depressed, withdrawn or more aggressive.

3. Returning to earlier behavior: Abused children may display behaviors shown when they were younger, such as thumb-sucking, bed-wetting, fear of the dark or strangers. Loss of basic language or memory problems may occur.

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10 Signs of Child Abuse & Neglect

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Criminal Victim Resources

Posted by Sandra On March - 27 - 2015 Comments Off on Criminal Victim Resources

Criminal Victim Resources

843149769Crime victims often are asked to testify in court or make a statement under oath in order to help prosecutors convict the perpetrator, and occasionally may receive restitution. Additionally, victims may claim monetary damages in civil court. But crime victims may also require assistance outside of the justice system, such as counseling; shelter; and other such needs. The following is a list of crime victim resources, including non-profit organizations and government agencies.

 

Resources
General
Information on domestic violence and sexual assault for the Deaf community. Downloadable brochures for Deaf children and adults on keeping safe and dealing with violence.
Information about human trafficking, including services available to victims in English, Polish, Spanish, and Russian.
Information on the services offered by the Victims of Exploitation and Trafficking Assistance (VETA) program, including legal representation and case management. Trafficking Information and Referral Hotline number.
Information on dating violence and how to get help, including Break the Cycle’s program offering legal representation to teen victims.
Crime and victims statistics, including results from the National Crime Victimization Survey.
Information on prevalence and impact of child maltreatment. Includes state laws relating to child abuse and neglect, child welfare, and adoption. Frequently asked questions.
Information on child abuse, including types of child abuse and signs of abuse. Downloadable brochures and posters. Information for children who are being abused, including how to get help.
Information on trafficking, including the services the Coalition offers to victims such as representation in removal proceedings and securing release from detention.
Resources for parents, educators, youth, and children about operating safely in cyberspace. Information for victims on cybercrime, including identity theft and online stalking. Downloadable brochures and online classes.
Information on preventing, detecting and responding to identity theft. Downloadable brochures and online identity theft quiz.
Provides victims in federal cases with information on how to file a complaint against an employee of the Department of Justice (includes any attorney, investigator, or law enforcement officer within the Department) if they feel their rights have been violated. Information about federal victims’ rights. Downloadable complaint forms.
Information on Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), including articles and video reviews. Q & A with PTSD expert. List of international trauma support groups.
Resources for victims of identity theft, including a “Victim Guide 101.” Information on how to get connected with a local support advocate.
Online mechanism for victims to report Internet crime. IC3 refers complaints to appropriate law enforcement agencies. Frequently asked questions and crime prevention tips.
Information for survivors of sexual assault and their support persons. Frequently asked questions. Foundation offers financial assistance to support persons to defray costs of transportation and housing, so the victim’s support person can attend criminal justice system proceedings.
List of toll-free helpline numbers for victims from the Office of Justice Programs, United States Department of Justice.
Information on relationship violence. Downloadable handbooks for parents, women, girls and boys. Materials available in Spanish. Information on the National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline.
Information on the criminal justice system, victims’ rights, and victim compensation. Online chats and message boards for victim support. Search for local assistance by zip code or state. Contact information for MADD’s victim assistance program.
Information about tribal courts, tribal court jurisdiction, the Major Crimes Act, judge selection for tribal courts, and tribal code construction. Online directory with links to tribal courts and tribal justice systems.
Downloadable “GetHelp” bulletins on all types of crime and victimization, victims’ rights, compensation, and civil justice, among many others. Toll-free helpline and email address for victims to receive information and referrals to services. Special information for teen victims of crime.
Information on elder abuse. Frequently asked questions. List of elder abuse laws. Clickable map of resources across the country.
Online directory of services for victims of domestic abuse in later life and their advocates. Downloadable fact sheets. Frequently asked questions.
Information for victims on safety planning, violence at the workplace, internet safety, and identity theft.
Information on civil remedies for victims of crime, including how to select an attorney. Downloadable brochure about civil justice for victims. Toll-free number to obtain attorney referrals.
NCVLI assists attorneys who provide direct legal services to victims. Establishes legal clinics to represent crime victims in criminal courts. Files amicus briefs in trial and appellate courts on the rights of victims. Provides information, resources, and trainings on victims’ rights to ensure these rights are enforced in courts.
Information on all types of crime and victimization. Downloadable publications for victims.
Information on the services the Hotline offers. Resources for victims about abuse, safety planning, and Internet safety. Information for immigrants, teens, family members, and other support persons.
National resource directory of domestic violence programs offering services in Spanish.
Information on victimization, trauma, and how to find help. Specific information on crime victims with disabilities, elderly victims, and domestic violence. Criminal justice system glossary. Links to national and state victim resources.
Articles and other materials about sexual violence. Links to other victim resources.
Resources for stalking victims, including materials on safety planning, what to do if you are being stalked, and address confidentiality programs. Downloadable incident and behavior log. Stalking laws and court cases.
Online directory of victim services. Links to other resources and victim assistance programs by crime. Resources for international victims, victims of mass terrorism, and trafficking. Frequently asked questions.
Information on human trafficking, including slave labor and sexual servitude. Materials on identifying and helping trafficking victims.
Searchable database of non-emergency crime victim services in the United States and abroad. Search by location, type of victimization, service needed and agency type.
Resources for families and other survivors of homicide victims. Information on grief, criminal justice system terminology, victim impact statements, and victim notification. Online support forums for victims.
Information on posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), including symptoms, diagnosis, and treatment options. Downloadable brochures.
Resources for victims of identity theft. Some fact sheets available in Spanish.
Online searchable directory of rape crisis centers. Statistics and other information on sexual assault, including post-traumatic stress disorder, depression, and incest.
Information on all types of victimization and the services offered by Safe Horizon.
Information about the federal campus sexual assault victims bill of rights and other federal laws relating to campus sexual assault. What to do if you have been a victim of a sexual assault on campus. Links to other victim resources.
Information about what to do if you are a victim of identity theft.
Information on stalking, including how to recognize stalking, cyberstalking, safety planning, and types of stalkers.
Information about stalking, including recognizing stalking, cyberstalking, and safety planning. Online discussion boards for victim support.
Resources for victims of stalking, including safety planning, protective orders, and stalker behavior.
Resources for parents, grandparents, and siblings of a child who has died. Brochures for parents, grandparents, teachers, funeral directors, and many others. Local TCF chapter clickable map.
Provides searchable information on offenders in many states who are currently in custody. Allows victims to register to receive email notification about a change in an offender’s status.
Searchable database of materials on victims of crime with disabilities. Online discussion forum.
Information for survivors of sexual trauma. Downloadable brochures, including a brochure for men. Information on how to pick a therapist.
Information about online safety for parents, educators, librarians, law enforcement, and children and youth. Materials on cell phone safety. Online reporting mechanism for harassment, stalking via the Internet, and cyberbullying.
State-by-state domestic violence legal information and resources. Includes information for immigrant victims and victims in the military. Resources for seeking protective orders, safety planning, and Internet safety. List of online chats and message boards for victim support.
Military Go to Top
Information about the victim and witness assistance program. Contact information for Victim and Witness Assistance Points of Contact for each military branch. Online forms for victim notification and compensation. PowerPoint overview of the military justice system.
Information for victims on reporting options, the military’s confidentiality policy, and the investigative process. Frequently asked questions.
Fact sheets on the military justice system. Information on military jurisdiction, commander’s disciplinary options, trial procedures, and a review of clemency, parole, and pardons, among many other topics.
Information on domestic violence and the military response. How to recognize abuse. Downloadable directory of Family Advocacy Programs.
Alabama Go to Top
General information on victims’ rights, compensation, pardons and parole, victim notification, and more. Downloadable victim notification form. List of Alabama victim service officers by county. Victim assistance hotline number.
Information on victims’ rights in the pardons/parole process. List of scheduled parole hearings.
Victim compensation information. Downloadable victim compensation application form. Online form to check the status of a compensation claim. Information on victims’ rights, the trial process, and the corrections process. Frequently asked questions.
Alaska Go to Top
Information on victims’ rights and restitution collection. Links to other Alaskan victim services programs. Frequently asked questions. Includes a “Kids Go to Court” coloring book.
Victim compensation information. Downloadable application form. How to appeal a denial of compensation application.
Information about victim notification and the Victim Information and Notification Everyday (VINE) system. Downloadable notification form. Victim impact statements information and related forms. Links to other Alaskan and national vies. Toll-free number
Downloadable handbook, in English or Spanish, with information on the criminal justice process, definitions of commonly used terms, victims’ rights, and safety planning. Directory of other Alaskan victim resources.
Information about victims’ rights and the victims’ rights enforcement process. How to file a complaint for violation of rights. Downloadable information sheet, “How a typical case is prosecuted in Alaska.”
American Samoa Go to Top
Contact information for the American Samoa victim compensation program.
Arizona Go to Top
Information concerning duties of the office, including victims’ rights enforcement and victims’ rights training. Downloadable brochures on victims’ rights to leave work, restitution, and the criminal appeals process, among others. Contact information for other Arizona victim service programs.
Victim compensation information. Contact information for victim compensation programs by county. Downloadable compensation application.
Online database to track inmates via the Internet. Information about post-conviction notification, orders of protection, restitution, and restorative justice. Frequently asked questions. Links to other state and national victim resources.
Searchable database provides information about court cases from 142 of 180 Arizona courts (list of courts posted on Web site). Email notification for changes to cases in Maricopa County.
Information about Arizona’s Victims’ Rights Enforcement Officer which receives and investigates complaints of crime victims concerning denial of victim’s rights. Online complaint form.
Victims’ rights information and overview of the criminal justice system. Downloadable forms including Request for Notice of Conditions of Release and Motion To Allow Support Person for Victim During Trial Testimony. Contact information for other Arizona victim resources. Information on the Crime Victims’ Legal Assistance Project.
Arkansas Go to Top
Victim compensation information. Downloadable application forms. Information about stalking, elder abuse, and missing children.
Downloadable guide to the justice system in Arkansas. Clemency and parole information. Contact information for other Arkansas and national victim resources.
Victim compensation information. Downloadable compensation claim form.
Information about the state’s Victim Information and Notification Everyday (VINE) system, including how to register.
California Go to Top
Overview of California’s Office of Victim Services. Information on victims’ rights. Downloadable form to request notification of criminal appeals. Frequently asked questions and informational brochures. Information about California and national victim resources.
Victim compensation information. Downloadable victim compensation form. Spanish forms. Brochure on victim restitution. Directory of victim witness assistance programs across the state.
Information about victims’ rights and the correctional system, parole board hearings, and cases in which the offender is a juvenile. Downloadable victim notification form. Restitution information. Links to additional resources.
Overview of the Center and toll-free line for resources and referrals for victims. Links to California and national victim resources.
Colorado Go to Top
Victim compensation information. Downloadable compensation claim form.
Information on victim services available and victims’ rights generally. Online victim notification request form. Online victim impact form. Information on other Colorado resources. Frequently asked questions.
Information on Colorado’s Victims’ Rights Coordinating Committee which investigates victims’ rights violations complaints. Downloadable complaint form.
Information on victims’ rights in English and Spanish. Victim compensation information and downloadable compensation claim form. Links to other Colorado and national victim resources.
Online directory of victim services in Colorado. Other information for victims and advocates.
Connecticut Go to Top
Victim compensation information. Downloadable compensation application in English and Spanish.
Downloadable request for victim notification. Victim Services contact information.
Victims’ rights information in English and Spanish. Victim compensation and restitution information. Frequently asked questions Downloadable notification registration form. List of court-based advocates across the state. Links to other Connecticut and national victim resources.
Information on the duties of the office, including monitoring the treatment of victims in the criminal justice system and receiving and investigating crime victim complaints of mistreatment by state agency or other entity providing services to victims. Summary of victims’ rights. Contact information for other state and national victim resources.
Delaware Go to Top
Information about the criminal justice process and victims’ rights. Telephone list for Delaware victim service agencies and related resources. Frequently asked questions.
Victim compensation information and contact numbers for staff of the program.
Information on the services offered by the Unit. Frequently asked questions.
Information about the Victim Services Section of the Delaware State Police and its 24-hour hotline. Contact numbers for other Delaware victim service resources.
District of Columbia Go to Top
Victim compensation information and downloadable application form.
Victim compensation and notification information. Frequently asked questions. List of D.C. and national victim resources.
Information about victims’ rights and compensation. Links and numbers for other D.C. and national resources for victims.
Florida Go to Top
Information on victims’ rights. Victim compensation information and downloadable compensation application. Clickable map directory of Florida victim services.
Downloadable victim compensation application form in English, Spanish and Creole. Brochure on victim compensation.
Information for victims about what to expect after sentencing. Online victim notification request form. Online Inmate Information Search. Frequently asked questions. Additional Florida and national resources for victims.
Georgia Go to Top
Information on victim notification. Downloadable victim notification form.
Information on victims’ rights in the parole process. Downloadable victim notification form and online change of address form. Online victim impact form. Other Georgia victim services links.
The Helpline, available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, assists callers with finding resources as well as information about the Georgia Crime Victim Assistance Compensation Program.
Victim compensation information. Downloadable victim compensation application form.
Downloadable Georgia victim services directory.
Guam Go to Top
Contact information for Guam victim compensation program.
Information on family violence and the duties of a peace officer. Phone numbers for local victim resources. Frequently asked questions.
Hawaii Go to Top
Information about crime victim compensation. Downloadable compensation application form. Frequently asked questions. Phone numbers for numerous other Hawaii service providers.
Information on victims’ rights, including the right to restitution, notification, and compensation, and the right to give a victim impact statement. List of phone numbers for other Hawaii services for victims.
Information on victims’ rights, submitting a Crime Victims’ Rights Act Complaint Form, victim notification, steps in a criminal prosecution, and preparing to testify. Links to Hawaiian and national victim resources.
Idaho Go to Top
Manual describes the rights of crime victims in the state of Idaho.
Victim compensation information. Downloadable compensation application form and instructions.
Information about the Victim Information and Notification Everyday (VINE) system. Link to online registration for VINE.
Illinois Go to Top
Information on the services offered by the division. Downloadable brochure about registering for the state’s Automated Victim Notification System. Toll-free number to provide victims with referrals for service. Numerous downloadable brochures on topics such as compensation for funeral providers and hospitals, post-traumatic stress disorder, and victim impact statements.
Victim compensation information. Downloadable compensation application form.
Information on the services of the Victims Services Unit. Recent news relating to victim services in Illinois. Toll-free number.
Database of agencies and centers that provide assistance to victims of domestic violence and sexual assault. Can be downloaded or printed.
Indiana Go to Top
Information about victim notification, the appeals process and victims’ rights, and the state’s Address Confidentiality Program.
Victim compensation information. Downloadable application form in English and Spanish.
Downloadable victim notification form. Information on Parole Board hearings. Information on “wrap-around services” for victim safety after offender release. Link to the Offender Public Information Search Web site.
Iowa Go to Top
Information on the services the Division offers. Information on crime victim compensation.
Information on crime victim compensation. Downloadable compensation application.
Information on the Victim and Restorative Justice Programs, restitution, victim notification, victim impact statements. List of common terms relating to the criminal justice system. Criminal justice system flowchart. Frequently asked questions. Offender information look-up. Links to more resources.
Kansas Go to Top
Information on the services provided by the office.
Victim compensation information. Downloadable compensation application form and eligibility requirements brochure.
Information on notification and downloadable registration brochure. Information on parole and public comment periods. Definition of commonly used terms in the correctional system. Link to secure Web page for victims to obtain information specific to their case.
Kentucky Go to Top
Information on the services offered. Downloadable brochures on victim impact statements and specific information about domestic violence. Link to information on the state victim notification system. Links to Kentucky and national victim service providers. Toll-free victim hotline.
Victim compensation information. Frequently asked questions. Downloadable compensation application form.
Information on the services of the Office and the state’s victim notification system (VINE). Frequently asked questions.
Information on the state’s victim notification system. Frequently asked questions, including how to register to receive notification.
Louisiana Go to Top
Information on victims’ rights under Louisiana law.
Crime victim reparations (compensation) information. Frequently asked questions. Downloadable application form. Downloadable statewide victim services directory.
Information on the Bureau’s services. Information on victim notification and downloadable registration form. Information on probation and parole and victim offender dialogue.
General information for victims of crime. Contact information for victim/witness coordinators across the state.
Maine Go to Top
Information on criminal justice system and frequently asked questions for homicide survivors and victims of sexual assault and domestic abuse. Information about victim compensation, including eligibility checklist and downloadable application forms. Links to Maine service providers and national resources.
Victim compensation information. Online eligibility checklist and downloadable application form.
Information on victims’ rights, including restitution and notification. Online registration form for victim notification program.
Maryland Go to Top
Information on the services provided by the office. Links to other victim services in the state.
Information on victim compensation. Downloadable compensation application.
Information about victims’ rights, including notification and restitution. Flowcharts describing the criminal and juvenile justice system process. Links to Maryland and national resources. Information on victims’ rights compliance.
Information on Maryland’s Compliance Initiative which works to ensure fair treatment of victims by the criminal justice system. Toll-free compliance line through which victims can make complaints and get referrals.
Information on the services the DPSCS offers. Information on victims’ rights and parole and probation. Downloadable flow chart describing victims’ rights in the criminal justice system. Links to compensation division and other state and national resources. Link to victim notification program (VINELink), http://www.dpscs.state.md.us/victimservs/commitment/main_pages/vs-vine.shtml.
Massachusetts Go to Top
Victim compensation information and downloadable application form in English and Spanish. Phone numbers for victim witness programs across the state and other victim resources.
Click on “Victim Services Unit” (no direct link exists). Frequently asked questions. Information about victim notification and certification to receive notification. Contact information for other Massachusetts and national resources.
Information on local victim services for victims of all types of crimes. Safety planning information and court advocacy for domestic abuse survivors. Information on MOVAs victims’ rights law project.
Information on the Center’s services, including free legal help for sexual assault victims in matters relating to privacy problems, education problems, immigration problems, or employment problems as a result of the crime. Resources for pro bono attorneys. Information on victim compensation.
Michigan Go to Top
Victim compensation information and downloadable application.
Information on victims’ rights, including victim notification. Compensation information and downloadable application.
Information on victims’ rights. Summary of how a case progresses through the criminal justice system. Frequently asked questions. Commonly used terms defined. Information on victim compensation. Contact information for Victim Assistance Coordinators across the state. Links to Michigan and national resources.
Information on the services the Alliance offers. Links to helpful resources.
Minnesota Go to Top
Information on crime victim programs in Minnesota, including online directory of service providers. Information about the crime victim reparations (compensation) program and emergency fund for certain property loss.
Victim reparations (compensation) information. Downloadable application form in English, Spanish, and Somali.
Information on the Crime Victim Justice Unit’s mission to ensure compliance with victims’ rights laws. How to make a complaint for a victims’ rights violation. Downloadable complaint forms.
Mississippi Go to Top
Information on victims’ rights and the services offered by the office. Information on victim compensation and a “victim assistance fund” for crime scene cleanup and court-related travel. Downloadable request form for exercise of victims’ rights. Checklist for victims’ rights when working with the media.
Information on victim compensation. Frequently asked questions. Downloadable compensation application form.
Victim notification information and online request form. Criminal justice system handbook for victims.
Missouri Go to Top
Information on crime victims’ rights. Online request form for victim notification of criminal appellate proceedings. Links to state and national organizations that assist crime victims. List of victim service providers and victim witness advocates across the state. Downloadable information booklet on the criminal justice system process.
Victim compensation information. Downloadable application form and online eligibility checklist in English and Spanish.
Downloadable victim notification form. Frequently asked questions. Information about parole hearings.
How to file a victims’ rights violation complaint. Information on the Missouri Victim Automated Notification System. Clickable map of victim service providers by county.
Glossary of criminal justice terms and information on the criminal justice process in Missouri. List of state and county prosecutor-based victim advocates. Victim services listed by county and by topic. State and national toll-free help numbers.
Montana Go to Top
Victim compensation information, including eligibility requirements and how to file a claim.
Information on victim notification and downloadable forms to register. Contact information for victim information officers at each Montana correctional facility. Information on the victim offender dialogue program.
Information on the services the office provides. Specific information on domestic violence, identity theft, rape exam payments, and restorative justice. List of crime victim services by city. Many downloadable resource documents, including booklets on victims’ rights and the criminal justice system.
Nebraska Go to Top
Information on the state victim notification system (Victim Information and Notification Everyday/VINE). Information on victim compensation (reparations). Downloadable guide to the criminal justice system. Frequently asked questions.
Victim reparations information. Downloadable compensation claim form.
Links to each correctional facility’s victim assistant representatives. Information on VINE and how to register. Links to other national resources. Frequently asked questions.
Nevada Go to Top
Information on victims’ rights and the parole process, including the right to notification of parole hearings. Downloadable notification registration form. Downloadable guide to parole hearings.
Victim compensation information, including frequently asked questions.
Information on the services the Unit offers. Downloadable victim notification registration forms. Information on the state’s Confidential Address Program.
New Hampshire Go to Top
Office mainly provides information and support for homicide survivors. Web site contains downloadable guides on the New Hampshire criminal justice system and victims’ right to give an impact statement. Contact information for victim witness assistance programs and domestic and sexual assault service providers across the state. Information on the state’s Address Confidentiality Program.
Information on probation and parole, notification, protection from intimidation and harassment, and restitution, among others. List of victim services liaisons in the state’s correctional facilities.
Information on the services of the Network, including trauma intervention, court advocacy, and a program for kids and teens, “Grieving Assistance Program for Students.”
Victim compensation information. Downloadable application form and compensation brochure.
Listing of victim services and other related resources across the state of New Hampshire.
New Jersey Go to Top
Information on victim compensation, including frequently asked questions. Downloadable compensation application form. Web site also includes lists of rape crisis centers, domestic violence shelters, and victim witness offices across the state.
Information on victims’ rights and the services the NJCVLC offers, including pro bono legal assistance to victims.
Frequently asked questions. Information on other victim resources in the state. Offender status search Web page.
Information on the services the office offers, including court accompaniment and counseling and support services. Information on the state’s victim notification system, including how to register. Downloadable guide to the criminal justice system. Links to other state victim services and resources. Lists of victim witness programs throughout the state.
Information on the state victim notification system (VINELink). Online registration to receive notice of parole board hearings.
New Mexico Go to Top
Information on victims’ rights and the services available through the Victim Services Advocate. Web site also contains information on child sexual abuse and Internet exploitation of children.
Victim reparations (compensation) information. Downloadable application in English and Spanish.
Information on the services of the Program, including a toll-free victim assistance number. Frequently asked questions.
Information on victims’ rights and pro bono services offered by the Project, including representation at court hearings, assistance with victim impact statements, and filing for restitution and compensation. Downloadable victims’ rights brochure. Contact information for other victim resources by county.
New York Go to Top
Web site posts the state’s toll-free victim helpline number.
Victim compensation information. Downloadable application in English and Spanish. Listing by county of victim witness programs across the state. Downloadable restitution brochure.
Information on victim impact at parole proceedings and suggested topics for victim impact statements. Downloadable registration form or online registration for the state victim notification system (VINE).
Information on the state victim notification system (VINE). Offender status search available.
North Carolina Go to Top
Information on victims’ rights, the appeals process, and the state’s Address Confidentiality Program. Frequently asked questions. Links to other victim resources across the state.
Victim compensation information. Downloadable compensation application.
Information about victim notification, victim input into parole or post-release supervision. Downloadable victim notification request form. Online offender look-up.
Information on the Statewide Automated Victim Assistance and Notification (SAVAN). Online registration.
Clickable map of victim services across the state. Link to online offender search and victim compensation program Web site.
North Dakota Go to Top
Victim compensation information, including frequently asked questions.
Victims’ rights and compensation information. Contact information for Victim and Witness Assistance programs across the state. Links to state and national victim resources.
Victims’ rights after sentencing and victim notification information. Downloadable notification registration form.
Ohio Go to Top
Information on victim notification and victim compensation. Online directory of victim services across the state. Materials on the Identity Theft Verification PASSPORT Program.
Victim compensation information. Online application and downloadable application form in English and Spanish. Online compensation claim status check.
Information on the services the Office provides. Downloadable registration form for victim notification. List of victim coordinators in each correctional facility. Information on parole. Online offender status search.
Victims’ rights information, including downloadable brochure on Ohio’s victims’ rights laws.
Oklahoma Go to Top
Information on the services the Unit offers, including “Safeline,” a toll free, V/TDD accessible 24-hour hotline for survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault, or stalking.
Victim compensation information and downloadable application form in English and Spanish. Online compensation claim status lookup.
Information on the services offered by the Department, including victim notification. Downloadable notification form. Pardon and parole information.
Oregon Go to Top
Information on victim compensation and Victim Information & Notification Everyday (VINE). Victim services directory and directory of all the certified county and city victim/witness assistance programs located throughout Oregon.
Information on victim compensation. Downloadable compensation application form.
Victims’ rights information, including downloadable brochure. Contact numbers for District Attorney’s Victim Assistance programs by county. Links to other victim resources.
Victim Information and Notification Everyday (VINE) information and link to register.
Pennsylvania Go to Top
Information on victim compensation. Downloadable compensation claim form. Online claim status check. Downloadable handbook of victim service referrals arranged by county. Frequently asked questions.
Information about victims’ rights, including the right to notification, the right to restitution, and the right to give input. Online registration for victim notification. Clickable map of victim services across the state. Information about the state’s Address Confidentiality Program. Frequently asked questions.
Puerto Rico Go to Top
Information on Puerto Rico’s victim compensation program in Spanish.
Rhode Island Go to Top
Description of the services the Victim Services Team offers.
Victim compensation information. Downloadable compensation application in English and Spanish. Frequently asked questions.
Information about the state’s notification system (Victim Information and Notification Everyday/VINE), including how to register. Frequently asked questions.
Information on the parole process and victim input into parole hearings. Frequently asked questions.
South Carolina Go to Top
Information on the criminal justice process. List of other resources for victim assistance.
Information about victim compensation. Downloadable application. Frequently asked questions.
Information on South Carolina’s Crime Victim Ombudsman which reviews and attempts to resolve victim complaints against the criminal or juvenile justice systems or victim assistance programs. Downloadable complaint form.
Online registration for victim notification of hearings. Information on probation, parole and pardons, restitution, and submitting a videotaped statement to the parole board. List of contact information for victim services coordinators in several counties. Online offender search.
Information on victims’ rights and victim compensation. Links to other state and national victim resources.
Information on the South Carolina Victim Assistance Network’s crime victim legal network which provides free legal representation to victims in asserting their constitutional rights. Information on specific crimes and subjects such as restitution. Links to state, national, and other resources for victims.
South Dakota Go to Top
Victim compensation information. Downloadable application form. Frequently asked questions.
Information about victims’ rights. Downloadable victim notification request form.
Information on victims’ rights and the impact of crime.
Tennessee Go to Top
Information about victims’ rights. Downloadable victim notification form. Links to state and national victim resources.
Information on victim compensation. Downloadable application forms. Frequently asked questions.
Information about the state’s notification system, Victim Offender Information Caller Emissary, or VOICE hotline. Downloadable registration form. Felony Offender Information Lookup (FOIL) Online. What to expect at a parole hearing brochure.
Information about the criminal justice system, including “Misdemeanors & Felonies,” “What Happens After The Trial,” and “Length of Prison Terms in Tennessee.”
Glossary of criminal justice system terms. Information on victim compensation. Suggestions for witnesses going to court. Phone numbers for victim service providers across the state, including victim witness coordinators.
Texas Go to Top
Information on statewide victim notification system, protective orders, victims’ rights, and victim compensation. Downloadable compensation forms. Links to sexual assault services programs.
Victim compensation information, including relocation assistance for victims of family and sexual violence and travel reimbursement. Downloadable application form.
Information on the services of the Division, including a toll-free victim referral line. Information on victim notification and how to register. Frequently asked questions. Statewide and national resource directory. Numerous brochures on victim-related topics.
Utah Go to Top
Information on the services the office provides.
Victim compensation information and downloadable application form.
Information on the services the Office provides and the state’s victim notification system, Victim Information & Notification Everyday (VINE).
Contact information for victim advocate programs across the state.
Vermont Go to Top
Information on victims’ rights. List of other state and national victim resources.
Information for victims on victim services and the criminal justice system. Vermont Victim Services Resource Directory and searchable directory by county. Links to other state victim resources.
Victim compensation information and downloadable application form.
Information about victims’ rights and the corrections system. Victim notification information and downloadable registration form. Online offender status search.
Virgin Islands Go to Top
Information on the impact of crime and the services the program offers. Links to other local victim resources.
Contact information for the Virgin Islands victim compensation program.
Information on services the Coalition offers. Links to national and local victim resources. Information for teens on dating violence, sexual assault, and healthy relationships.
Virginia Go to Top
Information on victim notification and downloadable registration form. Appeals process information.
Victim compensation information. Downloadable application form. Frequently asked questions.
Information on the services the Unit offers. Toll-free number for victims. Information on the state’s victim notification system, Victim Information and Notification Everyday (VINE) and downloadable registration form.
Information on services the Victims Services Section offers, including the toll-free DCJS INFO-Line for victims. Frequently asked questions.
Washington Go to Top
Information on victims’ rights. List of other Washington state resources for victims.
Victim compensation information and downloadable application form. Links to other state and national victim resources.
Information on the victim notification program and how to enroll. Frequently asked questions. Information on safety planning and the “victim wrap-around program.”
Information on the state Victim/Witness Notification Program and how to enroll.
Information about victims’ rights at parole proceedings and how to request an opportunity to make a statement to the Indeterminate Sentence Review Board.
Information about the services of the Office of Crime Victim Advocacy, including advocacy for victims who have had trouble accessing services or whose rights have been denied. Directory of local, state, and national resources for victims, searchable by county. Downloadable brochures on topics such as restitution and posttraumatic stress disorder.
West Virginia Go to Top
Information on the services provided. Information on the state victim notification system (Victim Information & Notification Everyday/VINE) and downloadable registration form.
Information on victim compensation, including eligibility requirements and how to apply.
Downloadable directory of victim services providers by county.
Wisconsin Go to Top
Information on victims’ rights and what to do if you believe your rights have been violated. Information on victim compensation and downloadable application form. Victim service agencies listed by county and by crime. Frequently asked questions.
Victim compensation information, including frequently asked questions. Downloadable compensation brochure and application. Main Office of Crime Victim Services site, http://www.doj.state.wi.us/cvs/OCVS_pages/For_Victims.asp
Information on the Wisconsin Crime Victims’ Rights Board, which can review victim complaints of rights violations. Downloadable sample formal complaint form.
Information on the state’s victim notification system and offender information search, Visual Offender Information Center/ Victim Information and Notification Everyday (VOICE/VINE). Frequently asked questions.
Wyoming Go to Top
Victim compensation information, including frequently asked questions. Downloadable application form.
Information on victims’ rights. Frequently asked questions. List of victim service providers by county.
Information on the state’s victim notification program. Downloadable victim notification request form.

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Legal Aid and other Low-Cost Legal Help

If you cannot afford a lawyer, legal aid may be able to help you:

There are legal aid offices (also called legal services) throughout the United States. Legal aid offices are not-for-profit agencies that provide free legal help to people who cannot afford to hire a lawyer.  While many legal aid offices only help people with very low incomes, some offices have more flexible income rules.

Legal aid usually handles cases involving:

  • Domestic violence– if your partner is abusing you, legal aid can help you obtain a protective order, a child custody order and divorce.
  • Family law– if you have a child custody or divorce case, legal aid may be able to help.  Call your local legal aid office or ask the Judge in your case to appoint a legal aid lawyer to represent you in court.
  • Housing– if you are being evicted from your home or if your house is in foreclosure, legal aid may be able to help.
  • Public Benefits– if you have a problem with welfare, Food Stamps, Medicaid, Supplemental Security Income (SSI), or Social Security, legal aid may be able to help.

Many legal aid offices may be able to handle other problems including immigration, consumer, and disability issues.   Some legal aid offices focus on one area of law, such as disability law, or housing law.  Some legal aid offices get funding from the government and that may limit the kind of cases they can take.

To find a legal aid office near you:  Go to www.LawHelp.org and select the state where you live to find out who in your state may be able to help with your legal problem.

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SOURCES:

http://www.crimevictims.gov/crime.html

https://www.victimsofcrime.org/help-for-crime-victims

https://www.victimlaw.org/victimlaw/commonAction.do?invoke=loadResources

http://criminal.findlaw.com/criminal-legal-help/crime-victim-resources.html

http://avda-tx.org/victim-advocacy/249794

The Pain of Betrayal

Posted by Sandra On March - 20 - 2015 Comments Off on The Pain of Betrayal

90% of child sex abuse victims are abused by a family member or someone they know and trust

How can I overcome the pain of betrayal?

a1945308ae4bf555b32b74a22f4f74c4Betrayal is a gross violation of trust and can be one of the most devastating forms of pain inflicted upon a human being. The suffering of betrayal is often magnified by a sense of vulnerability and exposure. For many, the pain of betrayal is worse than physical violence, deceit, or prejudice. Betrayal destroys the foundation of trust. It’s a shame when innocent people are betrayed and hurt by people they once loved and trusted. The emotional and physical pain inflicted with this type of betrayal can traumatize the victim for a lifetime. The closer the relationship, the greater the pain of betrayal. 

Betrayal is one of the most painful human experiences. Discovering that someone we trusted has deeply hurt us pulls the reality rug from under us. When we see the word “betrayal” we may immediately think “affair.” But betrayal comes in many forms. Abandonment, vicious gossip, and spreading lies also may be experienced as betrayal. A damaging aspect of betrayal is that our sense of reality is undermined. What felt like solid trust suddenly crumbles. Our innocence is shattered. We’re left wondering: What happened? How could this happen? Who is this person? Some betrayals leave us with little choice but to heal and move on with our lives, such as when we’re suddenly abandoned.

Abuse is another form of betrayal that can have long-term consequences for an individual’s adjustment. According to betrayal trauma theory, if you’ve been the victim of childhood sexual abuse at the hands of the person caring for you, you may repress or block the experiences from your memory in order to continue to survive. The closer you are to that abuser, the greater the degree of trauma you experience. and the higher your risk for long-term mental health problems.

 In research by University of Oregon psychologist Christina Gamache Martin and colleagues (2011), college students were asked to report whether they had experienced a variety of types of traumatic events. Those who reported abuse at the hands of someone they were close to were most likely to report symptoms of depression, dissociation, andpost-traumatic stress disorder. However, not only was the experience of abuse important, but also the way the participants appraised, or thought about, the abuse. Feeling betrayed, ashamed, anxious, and angry as well as blaming themselves were reactions that accentuated the effect of the abuse itself on their mental health.
Despite the pain, there are ways we can overcome betrayal. The power comes directly from the strength of forgiveness. Read more about recovering from betrayal in the articles below:

How to Deal With Betrayal: 8 Steps

What to Do When You’ve Been Betrayed

25 Ways To Deal With Betrayal – Discovering Purpose

So You’ve Been Betrayed – 7 Steps on How to Survive

 

 

 

 

Alarming Cyberbullying Stats

Posted by Sandra On March - 10 - 2015 Comments Off on Alarming Cyberbullying Stats

image-blog-CyberBullying-1One of the prime areas of focus on this website is providing environmental education for our children. In doing so, we would be remiss if we did not provide alarms to both children and parents concerning internet safety. KidsHealth, the most-visited site on the Web for information about health, behavior, and development from before birth through the teen years, recently posted a short article that addresses the disturbing and sometimes tragic effects associated with cyberbullying. READ MORE HERE

Bullying Statistics

Cyberbullying Statistics

Facebook’s New Anti-Bullying Tools

Whitehouse Conference for Bullying Prevention

 

Michigan #2 In Child Trafficking

Posted by Sandra On March - 6 - 2015 Comments Off on Michigan #2 In Child Trafficking

20130815-234804Michigan ranks No. 2 for human trafficking sex trade behind only Nevada. In an effort to crack down on adults and juveniles abducted and used as sex slaves Gov. Rick Snyder is announcing a new team to fight crime.  Snyder has appointed Cpl. Erin Diamond from the Wayne County Sheriffs Department. Diamond will chair and lead investigations for the state’s new Human Trafficking Commission. You may recognize Diamond, he’s arrested thousands of sex offenders over the years investigating online with the Wayne County Sheriff Department.  This new team picked by Snyder will enhance the crime fighting strategy, Diamond said. “Before it was just enforcement,” he said. “‘Let’s go get the bad guy assaulting children and move on with it.’ This is a whole different aspect where we’ve realized that the victims need help. “We’ve always talked about helping the victims. This is the first major efforts to bring all the players to the table and say what can we do as a team.” The team played a big role in the safe return of 16-year-old Aaron and his 13-year-old sister Emma Blackwell. The teens were abducted at gunpoint in Indianapolis, Indiana at the start of this week. READ MORE HERE

Recognizing the Signs

How to Identify a Human Trafficking Victim

Identify and Assist a Trafficking Victim

20 Ways You Can Help Fight Human Trafficking

REPORT CHILD TRAFFICKING – United States:  (888) 373-7888

National Human Trafficking Resource Center

SMS: 233733 (Text “HELP” or “INFO”)
Hours: 24 hours, 7 days a week
Languages: English, Spanish and 200 more languages

Protecting Kids From ID Theft

Posted by Sandra On March - 2 - 2015 Comments Off on Protecting Kids From ID Theft

downloadOnce your identity has been stolen, recovery can be a long, tedious process. Protecting your kids’ identity can be especially difficult. Babies, toddlers and teens can all become victims of the recent Anthem breach. Since many of them have little or no credit, thieves could use their Social Security numbers for no good. That could be devastating to these kids’ futures. There are ways to protect them. Anthem offers two years of free credit monitoring through All Clear Pro – which offers protection for kids via its Child Scan service. READ MORE HERE

Child Identity Theft | Consumer Information

FS 120 | Fact Sheets – Identity Theft Resource Center

Child Identity Theft | TransUnion

Child Identity Theft Education Kit – Equifax

Protect Your Child’s Identity | Protect My ID

Your child is safe. But is his identity?
Find out with a Free ChildScan Report.

How to Spot A Sex Offender

Posted by Sandra On February - 23 - 2015 Comments Off on How to Spot A Sex Offender

How to Spot A Sex-Offender 101

Little Girl and Scary Shadow on WhiteThe information that I want to share was gathered in a five-year “field study” in which I lived with, worked with, socialized and shared daily therapy with hundred of sex-offenders. This information is not born of debate or ivory tower theories, but from experience, including my own journey, which I published in book form, with the blessings of those men who shared. The basis of this disorder is trauma; the nature of it is insidious, widespread, dangerous and often subtle. A combination of behaviors in certain settings, in context, can provide a signal, a warning – a discordant note – possibly saving the innocence of a child without destroying all innocent bystanders. These are the common themes, and certainly not all offenders fit them. Offenders often appear normal and blend into mainstream society. My intent is to shine a light on these individuals while at the same time not casting dispersion on innocent people.   This is a start in prevention. READ MORE HERE

How Child Molesters Groom Kids

Posted by Sandra On February - 22 - 2015 Comments Off on How Child Molesters Groom Kids

Grooming: How Child Molesters Create Willing Victims 

child traffickingThere’s an old urban legend that if you put a frog in a pot of boiling water, he’ll naturally hop out; however, if you place a frog in a pot of cool water and gradually increase the heat, you’ll end up with a cooked frog. I can’t say whether this is true for frogs, but it certainly is true for many children who are sexually molested. The gradual cooking process is known as “grooming,” and the increased heat is the evaporation of physical and emotional boundaries. The Webster’s Dictionary definition of “grooming” includes “training for a particular purpose.” For child molesters, that purpose is a sexual relationship.

 

The Real Danger

Most people still want to believe that child molesters are deviant strangers who abduct children or entice them with candy and puppies. We teach our children to be wary of strangers, to shout “NO!” or run away and tell a trusted adult if anyone should ever approach them in such a manner. We teach them about “good touches” and “bad touches” and believe they will tell us immediately if they receive a “bad touch.” Our intentions are good, but we’re preparing them for the exception, not the reality in sexual abuse.

In reality, the molester is more likely to be the trusted adult and the touch is more likely to feel good. There are family members, friends and neighbors, even teachers, coaches and clergy who treat children better than most adults, listen to what they are really saying and strive to meet their emotional, physical and spiritual needs as a means of fulfilling their own sexual needs and desires. The “nicer” the molester appears and the more “troubled” the child appears, the more difficult it is to detect and believe the sexual abuse. READ MORE HERE

Child Abuse Risk Factors

Posted by Sandra On February - 15 - 2015 Comments Off on Child Abuse Risk Factors

imagesAlthough we often focus on children being harmed or mistreated by strangers, most abuse is perpetrated by a parent or caretaker,someone who is supposed to love and care for the child. When we think of a parent who abuses a child the image is often of an angry, intoxicated person who is physically or emotionally abusive and intentionally harming the child. In most cases the child is actually being neglected. The Children’s Bureau (U.S Department of Health and Human Services, 2010) reported the percent of all child abuse victims who had experienced neglect in 2008 was just over 73%. The image of the intoxicated parent, however, is often accurate, as many parents who neglect and abuse their children are misusing substances. They are also often victims of domestic violence, and were themselves victims of child abuse and neglect. Often, these adults lack parenting skills and the resources or capacity to meet the needs of the children in their care. Unfortunately,there is no specific indicator that is known to cause child abuse and neglect. Researchers and professionalsin the field have identified risk factors impacting families that have been found to increase the probability of child abuse and neglect and poor developmental outcomesfor children. Risk factors can be found at the child, parent, family, and community levels. It makes sense really, as risk increases,so does the possibility of child abuse and neglect. READ MORE HERE

 

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Risk and Protective Factors|Child Maltreatment|Violence

Child abuse Risk factors – Mayo Clinic

Factors That Contribute to Child Abuse and Neglect

Risk Factors of Child Abuse | Child Matters

Child Abuse: Making a Change

 

Why Does Child Abuse Occur?

Posted by Sandra On January - 31 - 2015 Comments Off on Why Does Child Abuse Occur?

imagesHarm, or risk of harm to children and young people, can occur when stress, tiredness, lack of skills, information and support combine to make the pressures of caring for children overwhelming. There is generally not a single factor that results in the abuse or neglect of a child; it is usually a combination of various factors. In addition, the duration (such as the duration of an illness) or intensity (such as the level of drug or alcohol abuse) can make it more or less likely that a child will be at risk for abuse. When trying to understand child abuse and neglect, we often look at possible factors in the adult, factors based on something in society, and factors based on something about the child.

WHERE DOES CHILD ABUSE OCCUR?
·1 in poor, middle class, well-to-do homes
·2 in any ethnic, cultural, occupational, religious and age groups
·3 in child’s own home or outside it
·4 in rural areas, suburbs, cities
·5 involving one or both parents
Tragically, though, it most often happens at home and usually the abuser is known to the child. Generally, the abuser is a caretaker. A caretaker can be a parent, stepparent, relative or baby-sitter

WHY DOES CHILD ABUSE OCCUR?
There is no easy answer to this question, because many factors are involved. However, child abuse is most likely to occur when parents are struggling with:

  • Stress…Pressures from money problems, everyday frustrations, illness or heavy responsibilities.
  • A painful childhood…Adults who were mistreated as children may, without meaning to, continue the pattern of abuse with their own children.
  • Alcohol or other drugs…can blind a parent to a child’s needs or may reduce inhibitions and tolerance levels so that parents may be more likely to lash out.
  • Isolation…Without friends or relatives nearby, parents can feel overwhelmed by the demands of raising a child.
  • Inexperience with children or unrealistic expectations…If parents don’t know what to expect from children, they may expect too much. Besides lacking the parenting skills necessary to raise a child, the parents may have no models of successful family relationships from which to learn.
  • Immaturity…Very young, insecure parents often can’t understand their child’s behavior and needs.
  • Unmet emotional needs…Parents may expect children to take care of them and to satisfy their need for love, protection and self-esteem.

Child abuse and neglect are complex problems. There is no one single cause. Different forms of child abuse are caused by different factors or different combinations of factors. Some of the factors which can lead to child abuse are described below. At the core of all forms of child abuse is a lack of basic respect for children.

Community tolerance of violence against children.
There is still some acceptance in the community for the use of physical force for the purposes of discipline and punishment of children. When held strongly by individual parents, these attitudes can support the physical and emotional abuse of children. This behaviour would not be tolerated between adults.
Lack of community understanding about the consequences of child abuse and neglect on children.
Research has shown that the general public have a poor understanding of the true extent of the problem of child abuse in Australia. As a result, child abuse does not readily register as an issue of community concern. This leaves all of us without the knowledge and the confidence to know what to do to prevent child abuse in the first place or take action if we are worried about the safety of a child.
Adults who are sexually and physically violent.
Some adults engage in physical and sexual violence towards other adults and children. This violence may often stem from individual psychological problems, low self esteem and a history of abuse and violence in their own childhood. Sex offenders hurt children because of a range of complex psychological and emotional problems.
Parents under stress.
Child abuse can occur when parents experience stress and find it difficult to ask for or use support. Stress can be caused by unemployment, financial problems, divorce and separation. Parents under stress can sometimes transfer their feelings of frustration onto their children. The stress can also affect their judgment and decision making as a parent.
Parents with health or mental health problems.
Child abuse and neglect can sometimes occur when parents have a personal problem or illness which affects their ability to parent their children. Many parents with a mental illness that is being treated and who receive adequate support can parent their children well. Parents who have a mental illness that is unrecognised or untreated or who lack important supports may neglect or abuse their children. Their illness may make it difficult for them to identify or meet their child.s growing needs for security or stimulation.
Parents with alcohol or drug problems.
Parents who are addicted to illicit drugs or alcohol can leave their children in unsafe environments or without adequate supervision. When substance or alcohol affected, some parents may be more prone to using violence against their partners and/or their children. Without adequate support, parents with an intellectual disability may sometimes not be able to care for their children.
Parents lack parenting skills.
Sometimes child abuse and neglect can be caused by parents who have poor parenting skills. This may be because they did not have positive role models in their own parents. Sometimes, a lack of confidence and low self esteem prevent parents from knowing how to change harmful or negative parenting styles.
Families who are isolated.
Families who are socially isolated are sometimes not able to find people to support them if they start having problems with their children. Often families who are isolated have no extended family network and often feel left out of their community. Sometimes, families experience isolation because of the loss of a parent through death or separation. Some families experience isolation because they become homeless and have to live in temporary accommodation.

CAN CHILD ABUSE BE PREVENTED?
Prevention is the only sure cure for child abuse and neglect. Through family education and support programs, the vicious and tragic cycle of abuse can be stopped. Our plan for prevention includes:

  • Helping parents learn to raise and nurture their children without physical or emotional violence. This can be done through support groups and parenting programs and through public awareness campaigns.
  • Organizing and supporting early intervention programs like Healthy Families Virginia, that provide continuous support to families from the birth of a child through age five.
  • Training teachers, day care workers, doctors and other professionals about how to prevent abuse and how to recognize and treat abuse when it does occur.
  • Supporting laws and programs that protect children from the pain of abuse.

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Study: Child Abuse & Neglect Laws Are Not Being Enforced

Posted by Sandra On January - 29 - 2015 Comments Off on Study: Child Abuse & Neglect Laws Are Not Being Enforced

download (1)Laws intended to protect children from abuse and neglect are not being properly enforced, and the federal government is to blame. That’s according to a study by the Children’s Advocacy Institute at the University of San Diego School of Law, which says children are suffering as a result. The numbers are grim. Almost 680,000 children in the United States were the victims of abuse and neglect in 2013. More than 1,500 of them died. Federal officials say they’re encouraged that the numbers are lower than they were in 2012. But children’s advocates say abuse is so often not reported that it’s impossible to know if there’s really been a decline. READ MORE HERE

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