Children depend on many adults as they grow up. Parents, relatives, teachers and child care workers all provide children with love, support and guidance. No one wants to see children grow up with fear, anger or neglect. But no one is born knowing how to care for children. Sometimes we make mistakes that hurt them. Whether you are a parent, a teacher, a relative or a caregiver, you can make a difference and help the children you love grow up in a caring, loving environment. Adults don’t have to be perfect, just willing to listen, learn, grow and change.
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How to keep your kids safe
It’s hard to believe until you enter any store–school is almost back in session! And while most parents keep a close eye on back-to-school sales, and tax-free holidays, it’s also a good time to refresh yourself on how to keep your children safe!
They may be all the rage, but getting your child’s new back-to-school book bag personalized with his or her name could be a safety mistake this fall. The younger the child, the more vulnerable they could actually be. “Strangers are people who we don’t know and who don’t know us,” says frequent Nancy Grace guest and president of the KlaasKids Foundation Marc Klaas. Klaas’ 12-year-old daughter Polly was brutally murdered. His goal now is to create a legacy in Polly’s name to stop crimes against children. READ MORE HERE
What drives a child to commit sexual abuse?
A unique insight into why young children sexually abuse other children is to be revealed in a ground-breaking study. The research, which has yet to be formally published, was on boys aged 10 or under who have molested siblings, classmates, or friends. It found that they are invariably born into families in which abuse, violence and neglect has become routine over several generations. The peer-reviewed study found that the boys were unable to form healthy relationships as a result of neglectful and hostile parenting. Even before starting school, they were anxious, angry and detached; bed-wetting, nightmares, self-harm and eating problems were common. READ MORE HERE
See our Warning Signs section if you’re concerned about behavior between and among children and adolescents.
Sex abuse crimes reported to police up 20% in a year as ‘Savile effect’ encourages victims to come forward
High profile allegations of abuse by Jimmy Savile and other celebrities have triggered a 20 per cent surge in sex assaults reported to police. New figures released today show police were told of 64,200 sexual offences in the year to March, with officials crediting the publicity around historic allegations for encouraging victims to come forward. It also emerged police are failing to solve half of crimes, including nearly three quarters of cases of theft, criminal damage and arson. READ MORE HERE
How to Identify a Pedophile
All parents want to protect their children from predators, but how do you keep your kids safe when you don’t know how to spot one? Anyone can be a child molester or a pedophile, so identifying one can be difficult – especially because most child molesters or pedophiles are initially trusted by the children they abuse. Read on to learn which behaviors and traits are red flags, what situations to avoid, and how to deter child molesters from targeting your child. READ MORE HERE
Domestic violence is a devastating social problem that impacts every segment of the population. While system responses are primarily targeted toward adult victims of abuse, increased attention is now being focused on the children who witness domestic violence. Studies estimate that 10 to 20 percent of children are at risk for exposure to domestic violence (Carlson, 2000). These findings translate into approximately 3.3 to 10 million children who witness the abuse of a parent or adult caregiver each year (Carlson, 1984; Straus and Gelles, 1990). Research also indicates children exposed to domestic violence are at an increased risk of being abused or neglected. A majority of studies reveal there are adult and child victims in 30 to 60 percent of families experiencing domestic violence (Appel and Holden, 1998; Edleson, 1999; Jaffe and Wolfe, 1990).
Impact of Domestic Violence on Children
Children who live with domestic violence face increased risks: the risk of exposure to traumatic events, the risk of neglect, the risk of being directly abused, and the risk of losing one or both of their parents. All of these may lead to negative outcomes for children and may affect their well-being, safety, and stability (Carlson, 2000; Edleson, 1999; Rossman, 2001). Childhood problems associated with exposure to domestic violence fall into three primary categories:
- Behavioral, social, and emotional problems. Higher levels of aggression, anger, hostility, oppositional behavior, and disobedience; fear, anxiety, withdrawal, and depression; poor peer, sibling, and social relationships; and low self-esteem.
- Cognitive and attitudinal problems. Lower cognitive functioning, poor school performance, lack of conflict resolution skills, limited problem solving skills, pro-violence attitudes, and belief in rigid gender stereotypes and male privilege.
- Long-term problems. Higher levels of adult depression and trauma symptoms and increased tolerance for and use of violence in adult relationships.
STATISTICS: Provided by Safe Horizons
- One in 4 women will experience domestic violence during her lifetime.
- Women experience more than 4 million physical assaults and rapes because of their partners, and men are victims of nearly 3 million physical assaults.
- Women are more likely to be killed by an intimate partner than men
- Women ages 20 to 24 are at greatest risk of becoming victims of domestic violence.
- Every year, 1 in 3 women who is a victim of homicide is murdered by her current or former partner.
- Every year, more than 3 million children witness domestic violence in their homes.
- Children who live in homes where there is domestic violence also suffer abuse or neglect at high rates (30% to 60%).
- A 2005 Michigan study found that children exposed to domestic violence at home are more likely to have health problems, including becoming sick more often, having frequent headaches or stomachaches, and being more tired and lethargic.
- A 2003 study found that children are more likely to intervene when they witness severe violence against a parent – which can place a child at great risk for injury or even death.
- Domestic violence is most likely to occur between 6 pm and 6 am.
- More than 60% of domestic violence incidents happen at home.
- According to the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development, domestic violence is the third leading cause of homelessness among families.
- In New York City, 25% of homeless heads of household became homeless due to domestic violence.
- Survivors of domestic violence face high rates of depression, sleep disturbances, anxiety, flashbacks, and other emotional distress.
- Domestic violence contributes to poor health for many survivors. For example, chronic conditions like heart disease or gastrointestinal disorders can become more serious due to domestic violence.
- Among women brought to emergency rooms due to domestic violence, most were socially isolated and had fewer social and financial resources than other women not injured because of domestic violence.
- Without help, girls who witness domestic violence are more vulnerable to abuse as teens and adults.
- Without help, boys who witness domestic violence are far more likely to become abusers of their partners and/or children as adults, thus continuing the cycle of violence in the next generation.
- Domestic violence costs more than $37 billion a year in law enforcement involvement, legal work, medical and mental health treatment, and lost productivity at companies.
Most domestic violence incidents are never reported.
Sex Trafficking in the U.S.
Sex trafficking occurs when people are forced or coerced into the commercial sex trade against their will. Child sex trafficking includes any child involved in commercial sex. Sex traffickers frequently target vulnerable people with histories of abuse and then use violence, threats, lies, false promises, debt bondage, or other forms of control and manipulation to keep victims involved in the sex industry. Sex trafficking exists within the broader commercial sex trade, often at much larger rates than most people realize or understand. Sex trafficking has been found in a wide variety of venues of the overall sex industry, including residential brothels, hostess clubs, online escort services, fake massage businesses, strip clubs, and street prostitution. For sex trafficking resource packs, click here.
Child abuse may actually impact a person long after they’ve left their childhood behind. Scientists have found that the volume of cerebral grey matter, which is responsible for processing information, actually is impacted by maltreatment. Child abuse is defined as all forms of physical or emotional maltreatment, sexual abuse, neglect or negligent treatment or commercial or other exploitation. Until now, though, the results of structural neuroimaging studies carried out on these children have been inconsistent. Now, scientists may have found out exactly how childhood maltreatment can impact the brain. READ MORE HERE
Stop It Now! has developed a warning signs tip sheet to help identify possible warning signs. Any one sign does not mean that a child was sexually abused, but the presence of several suggests that you begin asking questions and consider seeking help.
Behavior you may see in a child or adolescent:
- Has nightmares or other sleep problems without an explanation
- Seems distracted or distant at odd times
- Has a sudden change in eating habits
- Refuses to eat
- Loses or drastically increases appetite
- Has trouble swallowing
- Sudden mood swings: rage, fear, insecurity, or withdrawal
- Leaves “clues” that seem likely to provoke a discussion about sexual issues
- Develops new or unusual fear of certain people or places
- Refuses to talk about a secret shared with an adult or older child
- Writes, draws, plays, or dreams of sexual or frightening images
- Talks about a new older friend
- Suddenly has money, toys, or other gifts without reason
- Thinks of self or body as repulsive, dirty, or bad
- Exhibits adult-like sexual behaviors, language, and knowledge
Protect your kids: How to block vile porn sites
Did you know children can access porn not only through internet access, but also ipads, ipods, cellphones, iTunes, Kindle Fire, and ALL video gaming systems such as Xbox 360, Sony Playstation 3 and Nintendo Wii, DSi and DSi XL?
Talk Talk has just become the first internet provider to offer a porn opt-out for broadband customers. PM David Cameron is considering even stricter measures forcing providers to make customer opt IN for porn. With children as young as five online, protecting them is an issue every parent should care about. And easy-to-use tools are already in place no matter who provides your broadband. Child protection expert Jim Gamble says it’s vital for parents to get to grips with the problem. READ MORE HERE
U.S. School Violence Fast Facts
Here is a list of incidents of random elementary, middle and high school (excludes colleges and universities) violence with fatalities, from 1927 to the present. This list does NOT include suicides, gang related incidents, or deaths resulting from interpersonal conflicts.
U.S. Timeline (selected only):
December 13, 2013 - Karl Pierson, 18, opens fire inside Arapahoe High School in Centennial, Colorado, critically injuring one student and then killing himself. 17-year-old Claire Davis dies on December 21, eight days after being shot.
October 21, 2013 - Sparks Middle School – Sparks, Nevada. 12-year-old student Jose Reyes takes his parent’s hand-gun to school and shoots three, injuring two 12-year-old male students and killing Mike Landsberry, a teacher and Marine veteran. He then kills himself.
December 14, 2012 - Sandy Hook Elementary School – Newtown, Connecticut. Adam Lanza, 20, guns down 20 children, ages 6 and 7, and six adults, school staff and faculty, before turning the gun on himself. Investigating police later find Nancy Lanza, Adam’s mother, dead from a gunshot wound. The final count is 28 dead, including the shooter.
February 27, 2012 - A shooting occurs at Chardon High School in Ohio. Student Daniel Parmertor, 16, is killed and four others wounded when student T.J. Lane, 17, opens fire in the school. On February 28, Demetrius Hewlin, 16, dies from his wounds and Russell King Jr., 17, is declared brain dead. On March 1 Lane is charged with three counts of aggravated murder, two of attempted aggravated murder and one of felonious assault.
- February 26, 2013 – Pleads guilty to three counts of attempted aggravated murder, two counts of attempted murder and a one count of felonious assault. As part of the plea, the death penalty is removed.
- March 19, 2013 - Lane is sentenced to life in prison. He wore a white T-shirt with the word “killer” written on it to the sentencing hearing, and didn’t allow his attorneys to present evidence on his behalf.
January 5, 2011 - Millard South High School, Omaha, Nebraska. 17-year-old Robert Butler Jr. opens fire on principal Curtis Case and vice principal Vicki Kasper. Butler then kills himself about a mile from the school. Vice principal Kasper later died at the hospital.
February 5, 2010 - Discovery Middle School, Madison, Alabama. 14-year-old Todd Brown dies after being shot in the head in a school hallway. Fellow ninth-grader Hammad Memon later pleads guilty and is sentenced to 30 years in prison.
October 16, 2009 - Carolina Forest High School, Conway, South Carolina. 16-year-old student Trevor Varinecz is shot and killed by a police officer after allegedly pulling a knife and stabbing the officer.
September 23, 2009 - John Tyler High School, Tyler, Texas. A 16-year-old Byron Truvia is taken into custody for stabbing and killing high school teacher Todd R. Henry. Truvia is later found unfit to stand trial.
September 15, 2009 - Coral Gables Senior High School, Coral Gables, Florida. 17-year-old Andy Jesus Rodriguez fatally stabs 17-year-old sophomore Juan Carlos Rivera during a fight. Rodriguez is later sentenced to 40 years in prison.
August 21, 2008 - Central High School, Knoxville, Tennessee. 15-year-old Jamar Siler shoots and kills 15-year-old Ryan McDonald. In 2011, Siler receives 30 years in prison in a plea agreement.
January 3, 2007 - Henry Foss High School, Tacoma, Washington. Student Douglas Chanthabouly, 18, fatally shoots another student, Samnang Kok, 17. Chanthabouly is sentenced in 2009 to more than 23 years in prison for second-degree murder.
October 2, 2006 - Georgetown Amish School, Nickel Mines, Pennsylvania. 32-year-old Charles Roberts IV goes to a small Amish school and takes at least 11 girls hostage. Five girls were killed and six others wounded. Roberts then killed himself.
September 29, 2006 - Weston High School, Cazenovia, Wisconsin. 15-year-old Eric Hainstock goes to school armed with a shotgun and a handgun. After a struggle with the school janitor, Hainstock shoots and kills the school principal. He is convicted of murder in August 2007 and sentenced to life in prison.
September 27, 2006 - Platte Canyon High School, Bailey, Colorado. 54-year-old Duane Morrison takes six female students hostage. When SWAT teams enter the school, Morrison shoots 16-year-old Emily Keyes. Morrison then kills himself. Keyes later died at the hospital.
November 8, 2005 - Campbell County Comprehensive High School, Jacksboro, Tennessee. 15-year-old Kenneth Bartley Jr. opens fire on a principal and two assistant principals, killing one of them and critically wounding another, authorities said. In 2007, Bartley accepts a plea bargain, but his guilty plea is later vacated. His new trial begins February 2014.
March 21, 2005 - Red Lake High School, Red Lake, Minnesota. 16-year-old Jeff Weise kills his grandfather and another adult, four fellow students, a teacher and a security officer. He then killed himself.
February 3, 2004 - Southwood Middle School – Palmetto Bay, Florida. 14-year-old Michael Hernandez stabs to death 14-year-old Jaime Rodrigo Gough. In 2013, an appeals court tosses Hernandez’s life sentence and remands the case for re-sentencing.
September 24, 2003 - Rocori High School – Cold Spring, Minnesota. 15-year-old Jason McLaughlin shoots and kills 17-year old Aaron Rollins and critically injures another student. The second student died in October. In 2005, McLaughlin is sentenced to consecutive terms of life in prison for first-degree murder and 12 years for second-degree murder.
April 24, 2003 - Red Lion Area Junior High School – Red Lion, Pennsylvania. 14-year-old James Sheets brings a revolver to school and kills his principal, Eugene Segro, and then himself.
December 5, 2001 - Springfield High School – Springfield, Massachusetts. At a high school for troubled teens, 17-year-old Corey Ramos stabs to death Reverend Theodore Brown, a counselor at the school. In 2003, Ramos is sentenced to life in prison.
March 5, 2001 - Santana High School – Santee, California. 15-year-old Charles “Andy” Williams kills two classmates, a 14-year-old and a 17-year-old, and injures 13. Williams is sentenced in 2002 to at least 50 years in prison.
May 26, 2000 - Lake Worth Community Middle School – Lake Worth, Florida. 13-year-old Nathaniel Brazill, after being sent home for misbehaving, returns to school and shoots and kills his teacher Barry Grunow. Brazill is sentenced to 28 years in prison.
February 29, 2000 - Buell Elementary School – Mount Morris Township, Michigan. An unnamed six-year-old boy shoots and kills a six-year-old playmate, Kayla Rolland, at school. He is removed from his mother’s custody and put up for adoption.
November 19, 1999 - Deming Middle School – Deming, New Mexico. 12-year-old Victor Cordova shoots and kills a 13-year-old classmate. He is sentenced to two years in juvenile detention.
April 20, 1999 - Columbine High School – Littleton, Colorado. 18-year-old Eric Harris and 17-year-old Dylan Klebold kill 12 fellow students and one teacher before committing suicide in the school library.
May 21, 1998 - Thurston High School – Springfield, Oregon. After killing his parents the previous day, 15-year-old Kip Kinkel returns to Thurston High armed with a rifle. He kills two students in the school cafeteria, a 16 and a 17-year-old. He is sentenced to 112 years in prison.
April 24, 1998 - James Parker Middle School – Edinboro, Pennsylvania. 14-year-old Andrew Wurst shoots and kills science teacher John Gillette at a school dance. He is sentenced to serve between 30 and 60 years.
March 24, 1998 - Westside Middle School – Jonesboro, Arkansas. 11-year-old Andrew Golden and 13-year-old Mitchell Johnson ambush fellow students and their teachers, killing five. Johnson is incarcerated in a youth facility and released on his 21st birthday August 11, 2005. Golden is released on his 21st birthday, May 25, 2007.
December 1, 1997 - Heath High School – West Paducah, Kentucky. 14-year-old Michael Carneal opens fire on a school prayer group, killing three girls, who were 14, 15, and 17. He is serving life in prison.
October 1, 1997 - Pearl High School – Pearl, Mississippi. After killing his mother at home, 16-year-old Luke Woodham arrives at school and shoots two classmates. Woodham is serving three life sentences plus 140 years.
February 19, 1997 - Bethel High School – Bethel, Alaska. 16-year-old Evan Ramsey uses a shotgun stolen from his foster home to kill a 15-year-old student and the school principal. He is currently serving a term of 210 years.
September 25, 1996 - Dekalb Alternative School – Decatur, Georgia. 16-year-old David Dubose Jr. shoots and kills English teacher Horace Morgan on the steps of the school. Dubose was found not guilty by reason of insanity and committed indefinitely to a state mental hospital.
February 2, 1996 - Frontier Junior High School – Moses Lake, Washington. 14-year-old Barry Loukaitis takes a rifle to school and kills two classmates and a teacher. He was sentenced to life in prison.
January 19, 1996 - Winston Education Center – Washington, D.C. Two masked gunmen kill 14-year-old Damion Blocker in a stairwell. 16-year-old shooter Darrick Evans was given a sentence of 41 years to life in prison.
November 15, 1995 - Richland High School – Lynnville, Tennessee. 17-year-old Jamie Rouse kills a business teacher and a 16-year-old student. Rouse is serving a life sentence.
October 12, 1995 - Blackville-Hilda High School – Blackville, South Carolina. 15-year-old Toby Sincino kills a teacher and then himself.
November 7, 1994 - Wickliffe Middle School – Wickliffe, Ohio. 37-year-old drifter Keith Ledeger shoots and kills school custodian Peter Christopher and injures three others. Ledeger is sentenced to life in prison.
April 12, 1994 - Margaret Leary Elementary School – Butte, Montana. 10-year-old Jason Osmanson, teased because his parents have AIDS, shoots and kills an 11-year-old on the school playground. Osmanson is sent to a private residential treatment center.
February 1, 1994 - Valley View Junior High School – Simi Valley, California. 13-year-old Philip Hernandez stabs to death a 14-year-old student in a school hallway. Hernandez is sentenced to four years in a California Youth Authority prison.
December 1, 1993 - Wauwatosa West High School – Wauwatosa, Wisconsin. 21-year-old former student Leonard McDowell returns to his high school and kills associate principal Dale Breitlow. He is sentenced to life in prison.
May 24, 1993 - Upper Perkiomen High School – Pennsburg, Pennsylvania. 15-year-old student Jason Smith kills another student who had bullied him. He is sentenced to between 12 and 25 years in prison.
April 15, 1993 - Ford Middle School – Acushnet, Massachusetts. 44-year-old David Taber invades a middle school and takes three hostages. He later shoots and kills school nurse Carol Day. He is found not guilty of the murder by reason of insanity.
April 12, 1993 - Dartmouth High School – Dartmouth, Massachusetts. 16-year-old Jason Robinson is stabbed to death in his social studies class by three teenage attackers who invade the classroom.
January 18, 1993 - East Carter High School – Grayson, Kentucky. 17-year-old student Scott Pennington shoots and kills a teacher and custodian. He is sentenced to life in prison.
May 1, 1992 - Lindhurst High School – Olivehurst, California. 20-year-old dropout Eric Houston returns to his high school and kills a former teacher and three students. Houston is sentenced to death.
February 26, 1992 - Thomas Jefferson High School – Brooklyn, New York. A 15-year-old shoots and kills two other students. The shooter, Kahlil Sumpter, was sentenced in 1993 to between 6 2/3 and 20 years in prison and is released in 1998.
November 25, 1991 - Thomas Jefferson High School – Brooklyn, New York. A stray bullet kills a 16-year-old student during an argument between two other teens. Shooter Jason Bentley, 14, is sentenced in 1992 to three to nine years in prison.
January 17, 1989 - Cleveland Elementary School – Stockton, California. 24-year-old drifter Patrick Purdy uses an AK-47 to kill five children on an elementary school playground. He then takes his own life.
December 16, 1988 - Atlantic Shores Christian School – Virginia Beach, Virginia. 16-year-old Nicholas Elliot shoots and kills teacher Karen Farley. Elliott is sentenced to life in prison with the possibility of parole.
September 26, 1988 - Oakland Elementary School – Greenwood, South Carolina. 19-year-old James Wilson, copying the Winnetka, Illinois murders, kills 8-year-olds Tequila Thomas and Shequila Bradley in their school cafeteria. Wilson’s death sentence is overturned in January 2003.
May 20, 1988 - Hubbard Woods Elementary School – Winnetka, Illinois. 30-year-old Laurie Dann invades an elementary school and kills an 8-year-old boy. She injures six other people before taking her own life.
February 11, 1988 - Pinellas Park High School – Largo, Florida. Two 15-year-olds with stolen weapons, Jason McCoy and Jason Harless, shoot and kill assistant principal Richard Allen. McCoy serves two years in prison and Harless serves eight.
March 2, 1987 - Dekalb High School – Dekalb, Missouri. 12-year-old Nathan Faris, who was teased about being overweight, shoots 13-year-old Timothy Perrin and then takes his own life.
December 4, 1986 - Fergus High School – Lewistown, Montana. 14-year-old Kristofer Hans shoots and kills substitute teacher Henrietta Smith. He is sentenced to 206 years in prison in 1988.
May 16, 1986 - Cokeville Elementary School – Cokeville, Wyoming. A couple in their 40s, David and Doris Young, take over an elementary school with a bomb and hold 150 children and adults hostage, demanding $300 million in ransom. The bomb accidentally detonates, setting the school on fire. Investigators later determine that during the fire David Young shot his wife and then killed himself. 74 people were injured in the fire.
January 21, 1985 - Goddard Junior High School – Goddard, Kansas. 14-year-old James Kearbey shoots and kills Principal Jim McGee. Kearbey spent seven years in juvenile detention and was released at the age of 21. On October 31, 2001, Kearbey was involved in a six-hour standoff with Wichita, KS police. No injuries resulted and Kearbey was later acquitted of aggravated assault on a police officer.
February 24, 1984 - 49th Street School – Los Angeles, California. Sniper Tyrone Mitchell shoots at children on an elementary school playground, killing one and injuring 11. He later takes his own life.
January 20, 1983 - Parkway South Junior High – St. Louis, Missouri. An unnamed 14-year-old shoots and kills another student before turning the gun on himself.
March 19, 1982 - Valley High School – Las Vegas, Nevada. 17-year-old Pat Lizotte shoots and kills psychology teacher Clarence Piggott during class. Lizotte is sentenced to life in prison.
January 29, 1979 - Grover Cleveland Elementary – San Diego, California. 16-year-old Brenda Spencer opens fire on a school across from her home, killing the principal and janitor.
May 18, 1978 - Murchison Junior High School – Austin, Texas. 13-year-old John Christian shoots and kills his English teacher Wilbur Grayson, during class. The shooter is the son of George Christian, press secretary to President Lyndon Johnson from 1967 to 1969. After time in a psychiatric hospital, Christian attends high school in the Dallas area.
February 22, 1978 - Everett High School – Lansing, Michigan. 15-year-old Roger Needham kills another student who had bullied him. After four years in juvenile detention, Needham is released. He later earned a PhD in math and worked as a professor in Missouri and New York.
March 18, 1975 - Sumner High School – St. Louis, Missouri. 16-year-old Stephen Goods, a bystander, is shot and killed during a fight between other teens.
December 30, 1974 - Olean High School – Olean, New York. Honors student Anthony Barbaro kills a school janitor and two passers-by. Barbaro later kills himself while awaiting trial.
November 12, 1966 - In Mesa, Arizona, 18-year-old high school student Robert Smith kills five people at a local beauty college. He is sentenced to life in prison.
October 5, 1966 - Grand Rapids High School – Grand Rapids, Minnesota. 15-year-old David Black injures another student before killing teacher Forrest Willey.
September 15, 1959 - Edgar Allen Poe Elementary – Houston, Texas. Convict Paul Orgeron explodes a suitcase of dynamite on a school playground, killing himself, two adults and three children.
May 18, 1927 - Bath Consolidated Schoolhouse – Bath, Michigan. Farmer Andrew Kehoe sets off two explosions at the school, killing himself, six adults and 38 children.
These images were discovered by undercover volunteers on a website created by online sexual predators, where they instruct young girls and children that sex with older men is natural and their parents are lying to them and cannot be trusted because they are possessive and don’t want their children to feel good.
* A heart within a heart, or “GLogo” “GirlLover” is used by pedophiles attracted to girls. The heart in a heart, to them, represents a adult/ female child relationship.
* A blue spiral-shaped triangle symbol, or “BLogo” “BoyLover”, symbolizes a boy (small triangle) surrounded by an older male (larger triangle)- and is meant to show adult/male child relationships.
* The butterfly CLogo a.k.a. “ChildLover” (commonly looks like four touching hearts) in pink/blue represents non-preferential gender pedophiles (girl or boy attracted, often both).
* The yin-yang looking circle is CGlogo, used in reference to the website, Common Ground, which was created as a place for both girl and boy attracted pedophiles to meet and sympathize with each other.
* The pink/blue triangles is “AmaroSymbol” is a variation of the CGLogo.
Pedobear is said to have originally begun as a way for young members of chan sites (4chan, 7chan, 12chan…) to call attention to pedophiles in their midst pretending to be kids to get their information. The pedophiles have since adopted Pedobear as their symbol of pride on the chan sites, claiming that the invention of the bear is a “loving gesture” toward them. READ MORE HERE
Preventing, detecting child abuse is everybody’s responsibility
We as parents are the only ones who can stand between our children and any type of abuse. Three types of child abuse occur on a regular basis, and all three types can occur anywhere, in any family, no matter their outward appearances, or wealth. Most abuse is perpetrated by someone close to the child; however, this is not limited to the immediate family. Abusers can include babysitters, neighbors, and even, teachers and church leaders. We’ve all heard the stories, and we don’t want to believe that anyone we know would do such a thing, but it happens. Emotional abuse, neglect, and physical abuse are all types of abuse that affect our society, and, as much as we would like to believe otherwise, it can affect our children even if they don’t experience it in the home. It also affects our children’s friends much more often than we’d like to think. READ MORE HERE
What to do if CPS or DHS won’t help an abused child you’ve reported?
So, you’ve reported an abused child to CPS/DHS and nothing came of it? We hear these stories often and we have some suggestions for you: First and foremost, take photos and/or video of the abuse you have witnessed or seen. This will be valuable evidence to substantiate the abuse you are reporting. Also, the more reports that are submitted about the same abused child, the more chances something will be done quicker. Have the child’s teacher, neighbors, friends, church folks or whoever has any contact with the child, start complaining LOUDLY and OFTEN.
STEPS YOU CAN TAKE NEXT:
1) Contact LEGAL AIDE and find legal representation — your case should be tried in a court of law to petition the court for an abuse or neglect investigation, temporary guardianship, and/or full custody.
2) Contact the NATIONAL CHILD ABUSE HOTLINE — make a national abuse report. The Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD
3) Call the police or dial 911 directly – especially if the child is in immediate danger! If the child has current immediate/obvious bruising, abuse, neglect or any signs that the police or EMS workers can visibly see, I guarantee CPS will be forced to step in after they contact them. (Having police reports to coincide with CPS reports helps to bring the case immediate attention!!)
4) Contact the CPS office and ask to speak the the SUPERVISOR—report the worker behind the recommendation. You probably initially spoke to an intake worker. Next time ask to speak to the Intake Worker’s supervisor (they are who decides whether a case is accepted or not). There are two types of investigations: a GPS case/investigation- General Protection Services (and) a CPS case/investigation – Child Protection Services.
5) Contact the child’s school and speak directly to his teacher, principal, coach or school counselor. They are mandated reporters and can help to bring attention to the child’s abuse.
6) Document, document, document. Take pictures. Tell the children that if they are hit/abused they are to call the police IMMEDIATELY and reassure them that you will never get angry at them for calling the police. Tell them that if they become that afraid, they are to run to a neighbor’s house and call the police. Police take that kind of stuff very seriously BECAUSE of the number of children who have been seriously injured or worse because of neglect and abuse that went unpunished. Record and document everything—-keep a journal with dates, times, notes. Write down in detail what the child did to be “punished” for, when and where thy were hit and with what object, etc… Remember to take pictures and/or video of any/all abuse. This is crucial!! If possible, install a “nanny or spy cam” to catch the abuse on tape.
7) Take your child to a doctor’s office or hospital for a physical exam. Get documentation of the visit and make copies. This can be crucial evidence to present in your case.
8) Contact a lawyer. Supervised visits (or) immediate change in visitation/guardianship can be recommended if you go back to court.
9) Contact a Family Therapist as there are many funded through the United Way and can provide a safe environment to discuss your case.
10) If all else fails, please contact your state governor’s office and speak to the commission’s office!!! They will record an “in-take” report and investigate. Contact your state legislature/governor’s office/District Attorney and ask for assistance. Report the CPS office that is behind this unacceptable recommendation. Do not take no for an answer…be persistent. Call them, write them, go in person to their offices and tell them you need help.
NOTE: The laws state that parents are allowed to parent as they see fit provided the child isn’t being physically/emotionally/mentally abused nor neglected to the point that it puts the childs life in danger. Physical abuse is the easiest to prove in a court of law. Emotional/Mental Abuse is about impossible to prove with a younger child, especially if there aren’t other kids in the home displaying the same behaviors and if the behaviors aren’t extreme. Spanking isn’t illegal, spanking with an implement is highly frowned upon, but if it isn’t causing severe pain, bruising or impairment, it’s not (technically) illegal….Just morally and ethically wrong.
Lastly, CPS or DHS should be utilized only to protect children in danger. It should never be used for individuals who do not agree with the way a family or other parent is raising the child. DHS is always going to try to rehabilitate the parent. Jurisdictions vary, but you need to keep reporting to DHS (CPS or whatever it is called where you live) EVERY TIME. They have to come out and investigate each report by law. Stay in close touch with the school counselor and make sure the children know that the counselor is someone to be trusted and they will NEVER be in trouble for telling the counselor the truth.
The Shame of Governmental Child Protection — with “Melody,” a former CPS worker
IF YOU ARE “FALSELY” ACCUSED OF ABUSE BY CPS:
Victim Impact Statements
Over time, I have heard a number of victim impact statements. Some are touching, others seem to miss the point. They can be rambling dissertations that make everyone in the courtroom uncomfortable or even confused. They are sometimes read by the lawyers in the case, but in those circumstances they seem more like a performance than an actual heartfelt statement. There are even times where they hurt the real effort to punish. READ MORE HERE – Very powerful example of victim impact statement!
Making a victim impact statement
Victims of a violent crimes can tell the court about how the crime has affected them in one of three ways:
- prosecutor’s submissions, the prosecutor tells the court about the harm that has been done
- sworn evidence, the prosecutor calls you as a witness at the sentence hearing and asks about the effects of the crime
- a written victim impact statement.
A written victim impact statement explains how a violent crime has harmed the victim or affected their life. A statement signed by the victim is presented to the court at the time the offender is being sentenced.
You can make a victim impact statement if you have suffered harm because:
- a violent crime has been committed against you
- a violent crime has been committed against a member of your immediate family
- you are a dependant of someone who has had a violent crime committed against them
- you went to the aid of a victim of violent crime.
FBI Announces Child Summer Safety Tips
In advance of National Missing Children’s Day on May 25, the Federal Bureau of Investigation’s (FBI) Washington Field Office is sharing tips on how to keep kids safe and information about how the FBI investigates instances of child abduction and exploitation. Through the Child Exploitation Task Force, the FBI works to decrease the vulnerability of children to sexual exploitation, provide a rapid investigative response to crimes against children, and enhance the capabilities of state and local law enforcement agencies. READ MORE HERE
Dear Sister goes beyond traditional books on healing that use “experts” to explain the experience of sexual abuse survivors and speaks directly to, and for, other survivors. Author and editor Lisa Factora-Borchers has compiled a multi-generational, multi-ethnic collection of letters and essays that create a moving journey through the hearts and minds of over fifty survivors. The following excerpt from “From Trauma to Strength” shares a lesson in childbearing.
Cradling a strangely endearing plush toy pelvis in her hands, the childbirth instructor had just asked our group, “What do you expect of your labor?” I hadn’t thought as far ahead as labor. This was my first pregnancy and I was keenly sensitive to every minute change occurring in and on my body. I was all consumed with the actual pregnancy. I was exhausted. And mildly nauseous, and a little hungry—yet always having the presence of some indigestion. I had a wintertime heat rash in New York and another weird rash on my eyelids, which my hip co-workers had mistaken for me trying out some retro new-wave trend with pink shadow. Being fashionable wasn’t a pressing issue for me in those harried months; “pregnant” was all I felt and thought about. READ MORE HERE
For some abuse survivors, they have no idea when they first became the survivor, or the time that has passed since the abuse occurred- they would rather not remember anything about any of it- ever. We have lost time, days, weeks, years- we have lost parts of our selves… Innocence was stolen, trust was taken, and happy human beings suffered in silence- or expressed themselves so vocally crying out for help from day one- hoping someone would notice, or listen and see the pain- We prayed for it to stop, we prayed for ‘it’ to go away. READ MORE HERE
Cyber bullies should face prosecution, say doctors who claim online abuse is now a bigger problem than face-to-face harassment
Cyber bullying of children via social media sites is now a bigger problem than face-to-face harassment, say psychologists. Many youngsters are scared to reject the approach of strangers on social media because they fear they will become a target for abuse, a study suggests. It has led to calls for a new criminal offence of cyber bullying as concerns grow that the most vulnerable could be at risk of self-harm or suicide. READ MORE HERE
What is the profile of a child molester? An average child molester will offend 200–400 times before being caught, if ever. The vast majority of offenders do not get caught, and they have no criminal records. According to the FBI, only one out of ten cases of child sexual abuse is reported to law enforcement. Many of the statistics on these types of crimes are gleaned from incarcerated perpetrators, who have provided civil authorities with an inside view into the lives of child molesters. This information has helped law enforcement authorities ascertain that only the tip of the iceberg is being disclosed and reported. READ MORE HERE
Readers, the first step to curbing child abuse is recognizing it. If you see, or suspect, any form of child abuse PLEASE report it! Take action – it could save a child’s life. Report child abuse to your local or state child protective service agency, or to your neighborhood police precinct.You can become aware of child abuse by recognizing the signs. Here are 10 signs that can help:
1. Unexplained injuries: There may be unconvincing explanations for a child’s injuries.
2. Changes in behavior: Abused children often appear scared, anxious, depressed, withdrawn or more aggressive.
3. Returning to earlier behavior: Abused children may display behaviors shown when they were younger, such as thumb-sucking, bed-wetting, fear of the dark or strangers. Loss of basic language or memory problems may occur.
Rape is a devastating trauma-a crisis-in one’s life. Regardless of the circumstances of a rape, it can take a long time to truly feel “better” again and move forward. Some people never move forward as they are unwilling or simply unable to process what happened to them. And, sadly, after feeling that they have healed and recovered, certain triggers can easily bring victims right back to square one.
The Initial Aftermath
This stage of rape recovery immediately after the rape is more like “disaster clean-up” than healing-it is also known as the emergency phase. During this time, which can last days, weeks, or years, the victim is simply accepting the fact that this has happened to them. They are coming to grips with reality. During this time, a decision must be made to heal, to tell others about what happened, and to get help. It takes work and effort. Victims who were raped as children can often repress the memories of their abuse. For them, the initial aftermath phase can be delayed years, even decades. Victims who are raped as adults deal with other practical issues like being able to get to work, pay bills, take care of their children, and the effects of the rape on their marriage or sex life. READ MORE HERE
|Children & Sexual Violence
WHEN THE VICTIM IS A CHILD
1/3 of girls and 1/6 of boys, before the age of 18…
RESOURCE GUIDE for parents, guardians and survivors of sexual abuse.
According to the 1978 Russell survey, one-quarter of females experienced sexual assault or abuse before age 14, and well over one-third have had a sexually abusive experience by the time they reached age 18. One in six boys will have experienced sexual assault or abuse during childhood or adolescence. Some experts believe that, allowing for the underreporting of abuse against boys, the percentage of boys abused is the same as among girls. READ MORE HERE
24-HOUR RAPE CRISIS LINE
Professional staff and certified volunteers provide 24-hour crisis intervention, advocacy, emotional support and referrals to sexual assault victims, their families, and their friends in 150 languages via a 3-way tele-interpreter service. Although the 24-hour crisis line is confidential, it is governed by mandatory reporting laws. Please call our crisis line if you have questions about community services, or are in crisis and need immediate assistance.
New State Laws Require More Sex-Abuse Training in Schools
An Illinois woman has turned the lessons she learned in her recovery from her own childhood sexual abuse into a nationwide push to pass state laws that require student lessons and teacher training about the issue in public schools. Starting in her home state in 2011, Erin Merryn has successfully pushed for passage of a so-called “Erin’s Law” in 10 states, and she expects that number to grow as 26 have considered or are considering similar bills in their 2013 and 2014 legislative sessions. The bills, which vary state by state, generally require age-appropriate instruction for children as young as prekindergarten on preventing, recognizing, and reporting sexual abuse. They also either allow teachers to count training on sexual abuse toward continuing education requirements or mandate such training for all public school personnel. READ MORE HERE
Top 10 Books to Empower Kids About Their Bodies
The stats on child sexual abuse are alarming. I met author and mom, Jay Dale, on Twitter and she asked me if I was going to cover this issue. I usually post lists of books but wasn’t familiar with books on this topic, and honestly, I struggle with the Birds and the Bees Talk. Still, this is a really important topic and I am delighted that Jay agreed to guest post for me. Here’s a few more books: READ MORE HERE
When I started writing publicly about my healing from sexual abuse, I did it to validate my own history and journey and to inspire hope in other survivors. It’s been wonderfully empowering to record my triumphs and to share the process with thousands of fellow journeyers. However, being so public about such intimate feelings and experiences has been costly. For the most part, I count it a bargain compared with the expense of silence, but that resolve isn’t always very convenient or comfortable. One of the recent costs for being so vocal is a lawsuit from my parents. They are suing me for defamation of character and emotional distress. Through their case, they want to shut down OSA and silence my voice. READ MORE HERE
Family Secrets (2007)
In this message series Pastor Garry takes an up-close look into the life of the dysfunctional family of Ruth and Boaz. This family history included incest and prostitution! Could they have a future?
Fnd out how they made it, and how you can make it too. This is a six-part video illustrated message series.
OUR MISSION: To educate the public on child abuse signs & symptoms, statistics, intervention, reporting, prevention & assist victims & survivors in locating the proper resources necessary to enable & achieve a full recovery.