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Monitor Your Child’s Cellphone

Posted by Sandra On November - 19 - 2013 Comments Off

Parents should read their child’s mobile phones to prevent sex abuse

downloadParents are leaving their children at risk of sexual abuse because they don’t check the messages they receive on their mobile phones, a report has warned. More than half of parents – 56 per cent – thought it was ‘most intrusive’ to check on texts youngsters aged between nine and 14 had received. But the study into child sex exploitation found that pedophiles often try to contact children through their mobile phones rather than their computers. Smartphones are now a ‘key tool’ used by sex offenders targeting children, according to Parents Against Child Exploitation, which commissioned the study along with Virtual College’s Safeguarding Children e-academy. READ MORE HERE

How to Monitor your Kid’s Cell Phone Activities

31 U.S. States Allow Convicted Rapists to Sue for Child Custody

Posted by Sandra On November - 11 - 2013 Comments Off

31 U.S. States Allow Rapists Custody and Visitation Rights

pregnant-woman-300x200Editor’s note: Shauna R. Prewitt is a lawyer in Chicago. She is the author of “Giving Birth to a ‘Rapist’s Child': A Discussion and Analysis of the Limited Legal Protections Afforded to Women Who Become Mothers Through Rape,” written for the Georgetown Law Journal.

Chicago, Illinois (CNN) — When I was in law school, my criminal law professor introduced us to the crime of rape by reading us a quote from Lord Chief Justice Sir Matthew Hale, a 17th-century English jurist: “In a rape case it is the victim, not the defendant, who is on trial.” It was not merely a history lesson. I had lived it. READ MORE HERE

The 31 states where rapists can sue for custody and/or visitation are: 
Arizona, Arkansas, Colorado, District of Columbia, Florida, Georgia, Hawaii, Idaho, Iowa, Kansas, Kentucky, Louisiana, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Montana, Nebraska, New Hampshire, North Carolina, North Dakota, Ohio, Oregon, Rhode Island, South Dakota, Tennessee, Texas, Utah, Vermont, Virginia, Washington, West Virginia, Wyoming.

31 States Still Allow Custody and Visitation Rights for Rapists

How to Avoid Online Predators

Posted by Sandra On November - 7 - 2013 Comments Off

Sex Abuse In SchoolsThe National Center for Missing and Exploited Children states that as of 2012, there are nearly 750,000-registered sex offenders throughout the nation and more than 100,000 offenders are lost in the system. Some of the ways a sexual predator can find your child is through chat rooms, blogs, social networking, discussion boards and email. This is troubling when paired with a report issued by the U.S. Census Bureau stating that more than 60 percent of children aged 3 to 17 years and 82 percent of 18 to 34-year-olds access the Internet.

Know How a Predator Seduces Your Child

  • The first thing a predator does is show your child attention. He listens to and expresses sympathy for your child’s problems.
  • He may offer gifts.
  • He stays abreast of the music and hobbies that children enjoy.
  • He may evaluate your child to determine if they can meet outside of the Internet.
  • He will ease them into sexual conversations or gradually start showing them sexually explicit material.

Minimize Your Child’s Risk of Becoming a Victim

Use current news stories to discuss potential online dangers with your child. Let him or her know that they can talk to you about anything.

Pay attention to age limits on the social networking sites as they are there for your child’s protection. The majority of sites require users to be at least 13 years of age. Have your child choose a gender-neutral name to use online.

If your kid accesses the Internet elsewhere, find out what precautions those establishments and friends’ parents use to protect children’s safety while online.

Do not allow your children to have their own email until you feel comfortable about it. Have them use the family email address. Eventually, you can request that your Internet Service Provider (ISP) create a separate email address for them, so they’re mail can still remain in your email account.

If your child still encounters an online predator, do not blame him or her. The offender is always at fault. may

Monitor Her Activity and Know What Information She is Sharing

She should not release information related to her age or location, including her school, grade, extra-curricular activities or any websites that could indicate where she lives, as a report from the California State Assembly Republican Caucus explains. You can purchase monitoring software like guardiansoftware.com or Software4parents.com. There are also safety settings built into the Windows programs (7, 8 and Vista), be sure to use them.

If she is going to use a chat room, she needs to remain in the public area. A private chat room may be referred to as a whisper area. These rooms are especially dangerous because chat monitors are unable to read these conversations. Security measures should also exist beyond the computer screen; you’ll want to purchase one of the best security systems available so your kids can stay safe at home, whether online or not.

If You Believe Your Child is a Target

  • Look for pornographic files or sexual communication on your child’s computer.
  • Always monitor their live electronic communications including instant messaging, email and chat rooms.
  • If your child receives sexually explicit pictures or an individual solicits them through any online source, contact your police department and give them all the documentation related to these instances.


Melissa White

Melissa earned a master’s degree in counseling and works for a nonprofit that helps the mentally ill. She writes about relationships and family for a number of blogs.

Reasons Children Don’t Tell

Posted by Sandra On November - 5 - 2013 Comments Off

8 Reasons Children Don’t Disclose Abuse

timthumbFor many adults, it’s difficult to understand why a child would ever be silent about the fact they are being abused and not actively seek help. Countless courtroom juries charged with determining the fate of alleged perpetrators have questioned that same behavior, often leading to doubts of the validity of abuse charges or claims. After all, who in their right mind would ever put up with horrible treatment without trying to find refuge or stop it? In most cases, the sad fact is children will NOT immediately tell someone they’re being abused. As we peel the layers of this onion and try to understand what may seem to be odd behavior to many, please keep these key child abuse facts in mind: READ MORE HERE

Sisters Speak Out About Incest Life With Father for 12-Years

Posted by Sandra On November - 2 - 2013 Comments Off

Sisters reveal how they were molested by rapist dad – who was the local Santa

article-2480268-19150C0800000578-514_634x421Two sisters have revealed how they suffered in silence for 12 years as their own father sexually abused them. Nicola Twomey, now 22, and Emma Wills, 27, were repeatedly abused by Kevin Twomey, who turned their family home in Port Talbot, South Wales, into a place of fear and pain. The abuse of Nicola started when she was just five-years-old and culminated in Twomey raping her when she was a teenager. READ MORE HERE

American Psychiatric Association Changes ‘Pedophile’ Definition

Posted by Sandra On November - 1 - 2013 Comments Off

Not All Pedophiles Have Mental Disorder: American Psychiatric Association

imagesIn a move toward de-stigmatizing pedophilia, the American Psychiatric Association (APA) in its updated Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), distinguishes between pedophiles who desire sex with children, and those who act on those desires. The former group — those who want to have sex with children, but whose desires are not distressing or harmful to themselves or others — is no longer classified as having a psychiatric condition in the updated DSM. READ MORE HERE



The media report that the APA was planning on changing pedophilia to a “sexual orientation” was incorrect. Please refer to link below:

Pedophilia ‘Sexual Orientation’ Error Sparks Right-Wing Freakout

Help for Adult Abuse Survivors

Posted by Sandra On October - 28 - 2013 Comments Off

downloadIncreasing public awareness of child abuse through media coverage, documentaries, films, study discussion programs and setting up Child Help lines throughout the world has focused attention on the many children who suffer from the abusive behavior of some despicable adults. The emphasis has been justly directed towards the children and much of the available resources are being poured into the training of social workers, mental health professionals and police to provide effective intervention when childhood abuse is disclosed or reported.

While the concentration of resources and focus on children is necessary and of fundamental importance, it is sometimes ignored by both professionals and the public that children who are currently, or until relatively recently, being abused, will eventually grow up into adults. Those children who have benefited from positive therapeutic intervention may have been able to repair much of the damage resulting from child abuse so that they are able to lead healthy and well adjusted adult lives, but those who were not provided with positive therapeutic intervention, or who never disclosed the secret of the abuse, may remain deeply scarred. The hidden scars of childhood abuse may stay with these victims throughout their lives.

The scars of childhood abuse are often deeply buried, or hidden, and cannot be seen on the surface. They often penetrate deep inside the psyche of the child where they have the propensity to influence and direct behavior both in the childhood and adulthood. This often results in destructive behavior patterns and inhibit the survivor from being able to live a free, mentally healthy or satisfying life. Many survivors feel permanently scarred and damaged by the abuse, and believe themselves to be unable ever to heal from the experiences, much less lead a happy or normal life.  HAVOCA wants to challenge these ideas and provide the help, support and guidance necessary to help victims start their healing journey. HAVOCA believes every victim of abuse can become a survivor, and every survivor has the ability to become a thriver!  READ MORE HERE

Dysfunctional Family Life Hurts

Posted by Sandra On October - 26 - 2013 Comments Off

Dysfunctional_Family-1When you grow up in a dysfunctional family, you experience trauma and pain from your parents’ actions, words, and attitudes. Because of this trauma you experienced, you grew up changed, different from other children, missing important parts of necessary parenting that prepare you for adulthood, missing parts of your childhood when you were forced into unnatural roles within your family. For some of you, it has led you to attempt to flee the pain of your past by alcohol or drug use. Others of you feel inexplicably compelled to repeat the abuses that were done to you on your own children or with your own spouse. Others of you have felt inner anxiety or rage, and don’t know why you feel as you do. You were innocent, and your life was changed dramatically by forces in your family you had no control over, and now you are an adult survivor of that trauma. This article will discuss what these families are like, what is the impact of growing up in these families, and what you can do to begin the process of healing. READ MORE HERE


Understanding Dysfunctional Relationship Patterns in Your Family

32 Ways You Know You Grew Up In A Dysfunctional Family

Understanding and Dealing With a Dysfunctional Family

Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families | Psych Central


Halloween Sex Offender Laws

Posted by Sandra On October - 24 - 2013 Comments Off

imagesThere are a growing number of states that have enacted laws restricting the activities of sex offenders on Halloween. The type of restrictions imposed on sex offenders during Halloween hours generally range from “no passing out candy” to “no driving after dark”, among other things. While the laws are primarily meant to protect children from potential threats by former sex offenders and child predators on Halloween, critics believe these Halloween restriction laws infringe on an individual’s fundamental rights — at least on one “scary” day of the year. –  READ MORE HERE 

The Elizabeth Smart Foundation

Posted by Sandra On October - 24 - 2013 Comments Off

slider-mainToo many families experience the nightmare of having a child go missing. I know what it is like to be that child. I know what it is like to think that one false move may lead to not only your own death but the death of family members as well. Nobody can ever blame a child for their actions when they are being threatened, bullied, forced, or coerced into doing something unthinkable. That is why the “Elizabeth Smart Foundation” was created, because what if we could prevent future crimes against children? Wouldn’t it be worth it to do everything to bring home that one child?

What if you were that one child?

Or what if it was you who helped prevent/bring home that one child?

We do have options. radKIDS is a program that was created not to react to a heinous crime committed against a child, but to prevent crimes from happening to children. There are many incredible people who devote much of their time, energy, and resources to going out and hunting down child perpetrators. The “Internet Crimes Against Children” task force are some of those people. How can we afford to not support those who stand as guardians and rescuers, who do everything they can to prevent crimes and protect our children? Every child in the world deserves to have a life without abuse in any form. Children are the future. READ MORE HERE


Sextortion Newest Online Trend

Posted by Sandra On October - 21 - 2013 Comments Off

Online child abuse study examines nasty new trends including sextortion

downloadreport by a European expert group on the commercialisation of child sex abuse online suggests that sexual images and videos shared between youngsters may become a major target for traffickers, who are using increasingly aggressive tactics to gain remote power over vulnerable kids. The study was put together by the European Financial Coalition against the Commercial Sexual Exploitation of Children Online (EFC), a group headed by Europol’s European Cybercrime Centre (EC3) with members including child protection organisations and commercial firms such as Google, Microsoft and PayPal as well as law enforcement bodies. READ MORE HERE

Live streamed videos of abuse and pay-per-view child rape among horrible trend

The Free Parent Helpline

Posted by Sandra On October - 19 - 2013 Comments Off

Getting Help Is Easy with the Parent Helpline at 1-800-CHILDREN

imagesWhether you’re a new parent overwhelmed by the demands of caring for an infant or a veteran parent whose teenage child is out of control, asking for help is never easy. Too often parents are isolated and without much support. They confront the toughest and most important job in the world with the sense that they have to go it alone. But no one can go it alone.

The Parent Helpline can help you find programs and services in your community that can help. 1-800-CHILDREN is a free, confidential, multi-lingual information and referral service for anyone who has questions or concerns about a child or family. A trained Helpline Specialist is available to assist you everyday from 9 a.m. until 10 p.m. After 10 p.m you can leave your name and number with our answering service, and we’ll get back to you the following morning. If you live outside of New York, you can find your state’s Prevent Child Abuse chapter by calling 1-800-CHILDREN or at Prevent Child Abuse America.  READ MORE HERE

Child Abuse Resource Guides

Posted by Sandra On October - 16 - 2013 Comments Off

guide2013_cover2013 RESOURCE GUIDE: Preventing Child Maltreatment and Promoting Well-Being:  A Network for Action

This Resource Guide was developed to support service providers in their work with parents, caregivers, and their children to prevent child abuse and neglect and promote child and family well-being. It was created by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Children’s Bureau, Office on Child Abuse and Neglect, its Child Welfare Information Gateway, the FRIENDS National Resource Center for Community-Based Child Abuse Prevention, and the Center for the Study of Social Policy—Strengthening Families. The resources featured represent the work of a broad-based partnership of national organizations, Federal partners, and parents committed to strengthening families and communities. VIEW RESOURCE GUIDE HERE




Commit to Prevent Child Abuse 2013 Community Resource Packet

The theme of this resource packet, Commit to Prevent Child Abuse, highlights the commitment we each must make to create positive change. By working together, we can create nurturing and supportive communities through education, collaboration and advocacy. In recent years, research has caused us to take a step back and re-evaluate the way in which we talk about prevention and the tools we use to present our message to the public. This resource packet contains information, campaign ideas and strategies that have been formaed with this research in mind. The goal of this work is help steer the conversation away from focusing on the problem of child abuse to focusing on the solutions of e?ective prevention. VIEW RESOURCE GUIDE HERE


Reporting Child Abuse and Neglect: A Resource Guide for Mandated Reporters

This guide is designed to help you better understand the mandated reporter statute and to outline appropriate actions you should take if you know or suspect a child is being abused or neglected. This guide includes information on:

– The process for reporting suspected child maltreatment
– The partnership with law enforcement, child protection and licensing agencies
– Conditions of neglect and abuse that should be reported
– Some behaviors and characteristics of children and families who may need help
– Relevant state statutes



Preventing child maltreatment: a guide to taking action and generating evidence

WHO and the International Society for Prevention of Child Abuse and Neglect (ISPCAN) have prepared the world’s first ever international guide on how to prevent child maltreatment. Preventing child maltreatment: a guide to taking action and generating evidence is aimed at helping to expand the number of studies into the magnitude and consequences of the maltreatment problem, and to increase investment in large-scale experimental studies of programmes to prevent the maltreatment of children aged 0-14 years. VIEW RESOURCE GUIDE HERE


Abuse Help Guide

Abuse can affect virtually anyone from all walks of life, including men, women, children, and seniors. It can take the form of physical battery, emotional bullying, sexual abuse, neglect, or even self-inflicted harm. Whatever your situation, you deserve to live without pain and fear. Whether you’re the abused, the abuser, or a concerned friend or family member, it’s important to know that there is help available. By learning about the different types of abuse and what you can do to stop or prevent it, you can make a huge difference in your own or someone else’s life. READ MORE HERE


Reporting child abuse in your home or in a custody situation:

  1. Stay CALM. Do not let your emotions dictate your actions, and do not vent your emotions onto the people who are assigned to investigate your case (CPS, law enforcement officers, etc.).
  2. IF THIS IS AN EMERGENCY: Call 911 or your local police.
  3. DOCUMENT EVERYTHING from this point forward, including times, dates, and places. KEEP all documents from all professionals who have an opinion about the child abuse. This includes therapists, doctors, policemen, and teachers. If a professional informs you that they have an opinion or a suspicion of child abuse, have them document that suspicion, preferably in the form of an affidavit. Be sure to get a copy of any opinions from professionals regarding your child’s case.
  4. HAVE YOUR CHILD EVALUATED. Talk to medical and psychology professionals. If possible, have your child evaluated at a Child Assessment Center.
  5. BEGIN INVESTIGATION. Talk to law enforcement officers to initiate an investigation into the allegation of child abuse. Any reasonable belief of abuse or neglect should be reported to the police. If you have been too afraid to voice allegations in the past, let them know. If you have previously reported abuse, communicate the fact that you are trying to protect the child from further harm
  6. TALK TO CPS. If the abuse is not criminal, talk to CPS to initiate an investigation into the allegation of child abuse.
  7. GET AN ATTORNEY. Get an attorney and start proceedings to gain full custody of your child and terminate the abuser’s parental rights.
  8. CALL JUSTICE FOR CHILDREN. If you encounter a problem with completing steps 3-6, call JFC at 1-800-733-0059. Office hours are M-F 8-5 pm Central Standard Time.

Child Abuse Online Resources

Prevent Child Abuse America
Dedicated to providing information on child abuse and inspiring hope to everyone involved in the effort to prevent the abuse and neglect of children.

Stand for Children
Advocate for improvements to, and funding for, programs that give every child a fair chance in life.

American Humane
Devoted to preventing cruelty, abuse, neglect and exploitation of children and animals.

Child Welfare League of America
Child Welfare League of America National Data Analysis System CWLA, in cooperation with the nation’s state child welfare agencies, provides a comprehensive, interactive child welfare database. Internet users can create customized tables and graphs, as well as access information on child abuse.

Child Welfare Information Gateway
Child Welfare Information Gateway connects professionals and concerned citizens to timely, essential information and resources targeted to the safety, permanency and well-being of children and families.

Child Trends Data Bank
Source for the latest national trends and research on over 100 key indicators of child and youth well-being.

Children’s Action Alliance
Helps promote the well-being of children and their families through research, policy development, media campaigns and advocacy.

Children’s Defense Fund
Mission is to ensure every child has a Healthy Start, a Head Start, a Fair Start, a Safe Start and a Moral Start in life.

National Data Archive on Child Abuse
Exchange among researchers in child maltreatment field.

Respect in Sport
Respect in Sport is an online bullying, abuse, harassment and neglect prevention program for coaches and community leaders.

U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Children’s Bureau
Government site featuring information on child abuse, statistics, and resources related to child welfare.

Zero to Three
Publications, reference guides to programs, projects and professional developmental services promoting the healthy development of our nation’s infants and toddlers.

Cyberbullying Research Center

Mobile Device Safety for Kids

NSPCC – Online Safety

The 14 Rules of Online Safety for Children

FBI: Internet Safety Tips for Kids

Internet and Mobile Safety Resource Bank
(this is a resource on our site I thought you might be interested in)

Parent Guide: Talk With Your Kids about Internet Safety

Building a Barrier Between Adolescents and Substance Abuse

Teen Health Issues

The Guide to Baby-Proofing Your Home

Fire Safety and Prevention for Kids

Family Fire Safety Tips

Safety in the Home: Checklists


Child Abuse/Child Advocacy Community Resources


National Child Abuse Hotline (ChildHelp USA)
(800) 422-4453


American Academy of Pediatrics


ABA Center on Children and the Law


American Humane Society, Children’s Division


American Professional Society on the Abuse of Children


Center for Effective Discipline


Child Abuse Prevention Network


Child Welfare Home Page


CIVITAS Child Law Center at Loyola Chicago School of Law


Coalition for America’s Children


Family Development Resources, Inc.


Hilton House Child Abduction


National Association of Council for Children


National Center for Missing and Exploited Children


National Clearinghouse on Child Abuse & Neglect Information (NCCAN)


National Committee to Prevent Child Abuse


National Court Appointed Special Advocates (NCASA)


Packard Foundation Center for the Future of Children


Project No Spank


National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges


Stop it Now!


University of Michigan Child Welfare Law Program


U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children & Families


U.S. Department of Justice



Help for child sexual abuse:

1-888-PREVENT (1-888-773-8368) Stop It Now

1-800-656-HOPE Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN)

If you need professional help…

Do you feel angry and frustrated and don’t know where to turn? In the U.S., call 1-800-4-A-CHILD to find support and resources in your community that can help you break the cycle of abuse. In other countries, visit Chiworld.org for helplines.




Average Age of Child Rapist: 26

Posted by Sandra On October - 10 - 2013 Comments Off

Beauty-Child-Face-Eyes-Porcelain-SkinA groundbreaking report on child rape and sexual abuse shows the average age of an offender is 26, over a third of abusers are children, and family members pose the greatest threat to children — not ‘stranger danger’. It shows a child under 13 is most likely to be targeted for sexual abuse by a family member in their or the family member’s home. But Irish teenagers are more likely to be abused by their peers or somebody slightly older, in a location outside of the home. The sexual abuse of a child under 12 is also more likely to last for years while the sexual assault of a teenager will be a one-off incident, normally taking place over several hours.  READ MORE HERE








Child sexual abuse

Child Sexual Abuse Facts

Sex Offender chapter from “By the Numbers” manual

Child Victimizers: Violent Offenders and their Victims

Sex Offenses and Offenders: An Analysis of Data on Rape

Dealing With Youth Hate Crime

Posted by Sandra On October - 9 - 2013 Comments Off

5432-hatecrime_thumbnail There are laws and proper child care systems in the USA that ensure healthy growth of a child, both mentally and physically. Sadly, some children fall through the cracks in the system and end up in juvenile prisons. The major reason behind this is their inability to understand and accept diversity in the society, which leads to youth hate crimes. According to recent statistics, 29% of all the hate crimes in USA are committed by teenagers. Follow the infograhics to find out more facts about youth hate crimes in the country. READ MORE HERE

Infographic: Youth Hate Crime USA
Source: SecureTeen

“Meth States” In The U.S.

Posted by Sandra On October - 7 - 2013 Comments Off

Thousands of meth labs around the country remain. The midwestern states tend to see the most incidents involving meth labs, and Missouri outranks all others with 1,825 busts and seizures in 2012, according to a Government Accountability Office analysis of Drug Enforcement Administration data. Moreover, an increasingly popular crude cooking method known as “shake and bake” has put meth production in addicts’ hands, eliminating the need for an RV or even chemistry know-how. READ MORE HERE


Teaching Kids About “Grooming”

Posted by Sandra On October - 3 - 2013 Comments Off

screen-shot-2012-08-26-at-10-40-39-am1When thinking about perpetrators of child sexual abuse, many people picture an image of a creepy stranger. Parents and schools generally do a pretty good job of teaching their kids about “stranger danger.” But this is not where most of the danger lies. The vast majority of sexual abusers are known to the children they target, so it is incumbent upon us to teach kids not only how to respond when an uncomfortable or dangerous situation arises, but also how to recognize when danger is approaching. READ MORE HERE

Child Sex Abuse Prevention

Posted by Sandra On October - 2 - 2013 Comments Off

How Can I Protect My Child From Sexual Assault?

Parents are surrounded by messages about child sexual abuse. Talk shows and TV news warn parents about dangers at school, in the home and on the Internet. Despite all the media coverage, parents don’t get much advice about how to talk to their children about sexual abuse and how to prevent it.  READ MORE HERE



How Pedophiles Lure Our Kids

Posted by Sandra On September - 25 - 2013 Comments Off


Knowing the top lure techniques (as identified by the FBI) that are used by child predators will better prepare you to talk openly to your children and teach them what key phrases to look for and how to stay safe.

The Helpless Lure: This is a person who needs help carrying boxes to his car, or to find a lost dog, or lost child.

Prevention: Tell children that adults don’t ask kids for help in any way. Adults should ask Adults for help or directions or whatever they want.

The Promise Lure: This is when the predator promises to take the child to Mommy and Daddy. Or perhaps promises a surprise or candy in the car.

Prevention: Tell children that they are NEVER to go with anyone unless Mom or Dad has instructed them to.

The Gift Giving Lure: This is the predator who gives the child candy, toys, money, or other gifts.

Prevention: Tell children NEVER to accept gifts from anyone unless they received permission from Mom and Dad. This includes money from other family members (especially when the child is told to keep a secret). Tell children that we don’t keep secrets in our family.

The Messenger: This is the predator who tells the child that “Mommy was in a car accident” and the child is to go with them. Or “Your Mom called and asked me to pick you up today.”

Prevention: Tell children the names of people you have entrusted as emergency back ups. Remind them NEVER to go with anyone unless Mom or Dad instructs them to.

The Leader (Authority Figure): This is the policeman, priest, teacher or other authority figure who uses their position and suggested authority to win the child’s trust.

Prevention: Tell children not to go with anyone no matter what they are wearing or who they are, even if it means that they might get into trouble. (Many authority figures tell kids they will be in trouble, or threaten to hurt Mom and Dad if the child doesn’t cooperate).

Friendly Lure: This is the nice friendly predator who engages the child in conversation.

Prevention: Teach children not to talk to any adults they don’t know unless their parent is with them.

Playing Games: This is the predator that plays “touching games” and makes the child promise not to tell. Or other ‘games’ that the child feels uncomfortable with.

Prevention: Teach children to listen to their instincts. If something makes them feel funny in their stomachs, they are to stop, run and tell.

Too Cool: This is the person who the child looks up to as “cool.” Perhaps a friend’s older sibling, or a relative or a neighbor who has the latest video games.

Prevention: Teach children to listen to their instincts. If someone asks them to do something they know is wrong or feels funny, teach them to stop, run and tell.

The Magician Lure: This is the predator who seemingly magically knows the child’s name or other information about the child.

Prevention: Don’t put nametags on the outside of your children’s clothing, books, book bags, etc.

The Power Predator: This is the scary predator that just grabs the child off his/her bike and throws them into the car.

Prevention: This is the time when a child should fight, scream, kick, bite. Tell children that if they are on their bikes and someone tries to take them off, they should hold the bike as hard as they can while screaming, “You’re not my Mom/Dad!”

Lost Pet: This lure involves the predator asking a child to help them find their lost pet. Sometimes a monetary award may also be offered. If the child agrees, they might wander off by themselves where they are easy prey for the predator. The predator might also convince them to ride around in his car looking around the neighborhood while he drives around. Once he has them in the car, they are in serious trouble.

Mail Lure: In this lure, the predator parks near a mailbox and waits for a child to come along. When they do, he asks them to put some items in the mailbox for him. Once they get close enough to the car to take the items, they are easily grabbed and driven away.

Directions Lure: This lure is similar to the mail lure. The child is asked for directions to an address, street or business. If they don‘t get close enough to be grabbed, the predator acts as though he can’t hear them until they are close enough. By teaching our children to never get within 10 feet of an adult stranger in a car, the effectiveness of these lures can be minimized.

Handicap Lure: This is a very effective lure, even on adults. It was a favorite technique used by the serial killer Ted Bundy. This lure is effective because we all have a natural sympathy for someone who is handicapped or injured in some way. In this lure, the predator acts as though he has a broken arm or leg. He might have an arm in a sling or a fake cast on his leg. By making himself look harmless and incapable of doing violence, he gets his prey to drop their guard. Usually, they will appear they are having trouble getting a large item or several items into their vehicle. When the child gets close enough to help, they are pushed into the car. Once they are in the car, the predator has the advantage.

Lifelong Impacts of Bullying

Posted by Sandra On September - 25 - 2013 Comments Off

downloadBullying is unfortunately a frequent occurrence. A survey of teenagers by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention found that 20% had been the victim of bullying during the previous year, while figures collected by the Workplace Bullying Institute showed almost a quarter of employees had experienced bullying at some point in their careers. Not only does bullying have a huge emotional impact for those on the receiving end, but it can have a significant adverse effect on health, both in terms of current and future health. Beyond the injuries sustained if bullying takes a physical form, as a whole being bullied can influence everything from mental health to how strong your immune system is and whether you will develop chronic diseases in the future. READ MORE HERE


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Inside the Minds of Pedophiles

Posted by Sandra On September - 20 - 2013 Comments Off

Child Molester Series 1995: Inside the Texas Prison

24779-95206-teaserAccording to the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, child sexual abuse is reported up to 80,000 times per year. And what’s worse – the number of unreported incidences is likely far greater. Those numbers are devastating, but one way to protect our kids is to get inside the mind of a convicted child molester and one of his victims to learn first hand how to keep our children safe. READ MORE HERE




You may have met convicted sex offender Alan X. He didn’t skulk behind bushes, instead he cultivated his victims amid their families, churches and, yes, Boy Scouts troops. This cunning sociopath manipulated and molested more than 1,000 boys by becoming their best friend. Here he turns a laser-sharp eye on himself:

I was 7 when I first offended. I lured a boy of 5 into a storage shed and manipulated him into pulling down his pants and underpants. It was in the middle of summer, and the child was wearing no shirt, shoes or socks, so when he submitted to my demands, he was standing naked before me. Once he had stood there for a moment or two, staring at the floor to avoid my eyes, I told him to get dressed, and after bribing him to keep our secret, we left.” READ MORE HERE

What Causes Someone To Molest – Child Molestation Research

4 Stages of Child Molestation

Posted by Sandra On September - 18 - 2013 Comments Off

Four Stages of Child Molestation, Analysis

images (1)The recent discovery of Amanda Berry, Nina DeJesus and Michele Knight, three young women who suffered being abducted and, according to police reports, raped over the course of the last decade by their captors draws attention to the issue of child sexual abuse in a dramatic way. However, sexual abuse of minors is frequently less apparent, because, as specialists in the field acknowledge, there is no typical profile for child molesters, and many child abusers are relatives or friends of the family. “These are ‘nice guys’ and ‘pillars of the community,’ said former supervisory special agent, FBI Kenneth V. Lanning, who is also the author of “Child Molesters: A Behavorial Analysis” – a project awarded by the Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention, U.S. Department of Justice.  READ MORE HERE

Childhood Sexual Assault

Posted by Sandra On September - 17 - 2013 Comments Off

Sexual Abuse / Trauma

Many people have a limited understanding of the causes, prevention, and impacts of childhood sexual abuse, probably because it’s still a taboo subject in our culture; as are other sexual and abuse related topics. A common symptom of sexual abuse is post-traumatic stress. Be sure to visit this discussion area for anonymous accounts of sexual abuse, domestic violence, incest, drug abuse, etc.






  1. Can a child molester be rehabilitated?
  2. Do abuser’s feel remorse?
  3. How can I identify if someone might be an abuser? What are some identifying features?
  4. Why do people sexually abuse children?


  1. What are the perpetrator statistics on fathers, brothers, neighbors, etc.?
  2. How does alcohol play a role?
  3. What are the statistics on boys vs girls who are abused?
  4. For how many years does abuse usually continue?
  5. Is there more sexual abuse in the US than in other countries?

Trauma Recovery

  1. What is traumatic dissociation or amnesia of childhood sexual abuse? Is it real?
  2. If I have memories of sexual abuse, how do I know if they are accurate?
  3. Does childhood sexual abuse affect adult relationships?
  4. Can sexual abuse make individuals gay/homosexual?
  5. Why do so many people who were sexually abused wait so long to report it?
  6. Shouldn’t adults who were abused as children try to let it go?
  7. If I, or someone I know was sexually abused, what can I do to help recover?
  8. What is it like to tell someone you’ve been abused and not be believed?
  9. Is it okay to give support to both the abuser and the abused in a family?

Legal Issues

  1. Are there changes in laws that protect children?
  2. In what ways are children sexually abused? Is it always physical?
  3. Does pornography promote sexual abuse?
  4. Is there more sexual abuse than there used to be?
  5. I am an adult who was abused as a child, should I tell someone? Should I go to counseling?
  6. How can I tell if a child is being abused? Should I investigate? What should I be doing? Call the police? Question the child?
  7. What is the age of sexual consent? Is it sexual abuse if a brother and sister about the same age, or a few years apart engage in sexual activity? If there is a line, where is it drawn between experimenting and abuse?
  8. Are there national or federal laws that pertain to childhood sexual abuse?

Nat’l Suicide Prevention Month

Posted by Sandra On September - 12 - 2013 Comments Off

downloadSuicide is a major public health problem. In fact, it is a leading cause of violent death in the United States; accounting for over 34,000 deaths in 2007, the latest year for which the Centers for Disease Control has statistics available. U.S. Customs and Border Protection (CBP) is not immune to the problem of suicide. At CBP, we care about our workforce. We believe that the loss of even one member of our CBP family to suicide is one too many. READ MORE HERE





National Suicide Prevention Month

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline


Helps individuals in suicidal crisis to contact the nearest available suicide preventionand mental health service provider through a toll-free phone number.

Sibling Abuse and Rivalry

Posted by Sandra On September - 9 - 2013 Comments Off

7945060_f260Sibling abuse is any form of verbal, emotional, physical, or sexual abuse of one child by a sibling. Most instances of sibling abuse are disregarded by adults or go unnoticed. It is typically only the most extreme cases requiring medical attention or police intervention that are reported. Many cases of sibling abuse occur “under the radar” on without parental or adult intervention. Even when sibling abuse is observed by a a parent or another adult, it is often disregarded or written off as a normal part of growing up. This tends to lead to chronic abuse problems where the victim has no recourse or refuge. However, sibling abuse is just as serious as parental child abuse and causes a great deal of harm to a victim. The damaging effects often extend long into adulthood. READ MORE HERE


Sibling Abuse – Children Abusing Other Children

Even though there can be life long debilitating psychological effects, sibling abuse may be the most ignored – if not accepted – form of domestic (i.e. sexual, physical, emotional) abuse. Why is this kind of abuse ignored or minimized? There is a lot that is swept under the rug in the guise of “sibling rivalry.” And American law does not consider this a prosecutable offense unless a child is turned in by their parent(s). In other words, parents would have to be willing to file an assault charge against their own child. So parents keep this type of abuse within the family. And a lot of the time, they even blame the victim. READ MORE HERE


Sibling Sexual Abuse and Incest During Childhood

Sibling child sexual abuse is defined as “sexual behavior between siblings that is not age appropriate, not transitory, and not motivated by developmentally, mutually appropriate curiosity” (Caffaro & Conn-Caffaro, 1998). In the literature it is sometimes referred to simply as “sexually harmful behavior” rather than abuse, but I will refer to it as “abuse” so as not to devalue the impact that this experience can have on the survivor. It can refer to abuse which takes place between brother – brother, brother – sister, sister – sister, as well as between half siblings, step – siblings, and adoptive siblings. Sexual abuse between siblings remains one of the last taboos to be addressed by society – and as such, it is rarely discussed in the media, or even among survivors themselves. It comes as a shock to many people that children can present a risk to other children, but it is becoming increasingly apparent that children (even children within families) can post a very real risk. Obviously, with this silence surrounding it, it is perfectly understandable why, if you are a survivor of sibling sexual abuse, you may believe you are the only one this has happened to. It’s not! READ MORE HERE


Abusive Rivalry Amongst Siblings

Sibling rivalry is so common and universal that most parents learn to tune it out, or at least live with it. Normal sibling rivalry is one way kids learn to negotiate relationships in the world. It teaches them how to act appropriately, what’s effective, what’s harmful, what will turn others away from them. But sometimes, the rivalry becomes dangerous to a child. When this happens, parents may not want to admit to themselves that something more serious than common rivalry is occurring. They may overlook or ignore the sense that something’s wrong. Or perhaps parents are so overwhelmed with things going on in their own lives—demanding work schedules, divorce, financial difficulties or other problems—that they’re not tuned in to the fact that a child is in danger and needs protection. READ MORE HERE

When the Bully Is a Sibling – NYTimes.com

Dr. Phil.com – Advice – Sibling Abuse

The Dark Side of Siblings | Psychology Today

Ending a Relationship with an Abusive Parent, Child or Sibling

Understanding What Sibling Abuse Is

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