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Screaming STOP THE ABUSE Found on the netSandra On September - 27 - 2009

A Message From the Founder

I continue to be asked over & over again “Why do you run this website?”
I want everyone who reads this to know EXACTLY “why” …..

I am just a mother on a mission!
I was one of those parents who thought this type of thing would “never happen to me.” We lived in a small country town and my mother & stepfather babysat for me. I wanted to KEEP THEM SAFE FROM HARM while, as a single parent, I struggled & worked the night shift.
I mean, if you can’t trust your own family, who can you trust, right?

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WRONG!!!

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The day that I walked-in & caught my stepfather molesting my 5-year old daughter
was the most HORRIFIC & TRAUMATIC moment of my life.
That image is permanently etched upon my mind; forever haunting me.
–My world (and hers) as we knew it had just permanently changed–
My little girl’s innocence had been ripped away in a moment’s time.

On our way to the police station she looked at me and saw me crying.
She was wrapped in only a light blanket–
It was the only thing I could quickly grab as I rushed out of the house with her.
She said, “Mom, don’t cry. It’s okay…We were just playing our secret game.”

My heart SANK!!

How could I not have seen the signs?
Why didn’t she tell me?
How did I not know?

Why would this man ~ My stepfather / Her Grandfather ~ do this?
I wanted this child rapist to pay for what he did to my daughter!
He confessed to molesting my little girl from the age of 2-5 years old!
HE STOLE THREE YEARS OF HER INNOCENCE, TRUST & CHILDHOOD!
I went through every emotion possible from shock, denial,
depression & even suicidal–then finally anger.

Even though he was fully prosecuted & sentenced to 15-years for CSC 2nd Degree,
It still didn’t seem like enough.
My daughter had been sentenced to a lifetime of trauma;
I felt he should as well.

So, I actually went out & purchased my first handgun
With the intention of serving my own justice,
but I just couldn’t bring myself to do it.
I decided my child had already been through enough trauma.

WOULD A JURY HAVE FOUND ME GUILTY?
I guess that depends….
Because if any other parent had witnessed what I witnessed that horrific day,
By God, I cannot see how ANY jury could ever find a parent GUILTY!!

I am convinced that if I had known then, what I know now, I would have seen the signs–I would have KNOWN something was wrong–I would have been able to STOP IT! I know how hard it is to comprehend HOW or WHY anyone would hurt our innocent children but, the reality is THEY DO. I have spent many hours working on my websites–hoping & praying to educate just ONE MORE PERSON–Because, for each new member educated on child abuse, is yet another chance of possibly saving an innocent child. My goal is to educate others based on my own personal experiences, extensive research and firsthand knowledge of the turmoil, trauma and life-long effects abuse can have on your life.

Educate Yourself—Learn The Facts!
This can happen in ANY household–Male or Female!
It only takes a few minutes to look over our site but, the knowledge gained will last you a lifetime.
It could just save a child’s life!!!

TOGETHER WE “CAN” MAKE A DIFFERENCE!

This is a matter of conscience. It is our moral, legal and ethical DUTY to protect our children!
I personally can not, and will not, close my eyes in the face of abuse, fully knowing what is happening to our children and knowing it will continue. I have been,and I will continue, to be their voice.
If I can save one family from having to go through what my family went through, then I have succeeded! ~Sandra~
(Photo on left: My daughter: age 5 – In front of the home she was abused in)
(Photo on right: My daughter & I – before I knew she was being abused)
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UPDATE: 2011 – Earl Frederick Sprague (MI), my daughter’s rapist, died today. May he rot in hell!

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UPDATE: 12/19/2015 – My biological mother died today. I had not spoken to her since the day I walked in on my step-father molesting my daughter (21-years ago). She had written me random letters of “apologies” for standing by her child rapist husband, but there was no meaning behind her words; the damage was already done and irreversible. She told me her husband “needed therapy, not prison” … I disagreed and sent him to prison for 15-years.

I broke the silence and I am not ashamed of that! She mentioned in an unsolicited Facebook message to me that she was extremely upset I put “our story” on the internet for all to see. She felt my daughter’s abuse was a private matter. Really? I tend to differ!

I will NEVER stop advocating against child abuse – and neither should you! The cycle of abuse must be broken so that abuse does not continue generation to generation. If you know about the abuse, and do nothing, you are JUST as guilty as the abuser himself.

(Photo below: My mother and I – 1968)

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I have had to remove people very close to me for asking why I could not just “get over it?” I will never get over it, nor will I forgive those directly responsible to the abuse my daughter endured. And how dare you ask me to! I did not attend my mother’s funeral. I did what I could to be there emotionally for my siblings, helped take her belongings to a storage, but I did not physically attend. As I said before, I said my goodbye 21-years ago. Her death was the final chapter to this horrible nightmare. My daughter and I (and my entire family) can now have closure and move forward knowing we have started a new, healthy lifestyle and generation. Toxic family members are just as bad as the abuser himself. Breaking the cycle and keeping my children safe is my TOP priority – no matter the cost.

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